A friend of mine is a Project Manager. Her husband is far less organised. Things have sat in boxes, in the way of traffic and in the way of beautifying her home, for decades. There have been numerous promises to follow through. When we fail to follow through, we disrespect both ourselves and the person we made the goal with. When everything boils down, time is the ultimate gift we give both ourselves and those we love. We spend our time and our money on who and what we love.
Life moves swiftly onward and as most of us are used to creating busy work in our days and planning ahead, it can be easy to lose the moment. It can also be all too easy to fill ourselves up so much with stuff, with the dust of the day, that we have no time to breath or change direction, or see a friend.
Creating To Do lists are one of my favourite things to do! Firstly, it solidifies plans. You can delight and feel great about checking things off as done. it keeps you on track, from writing a letter to a friend, to having lunch to joining a meeting, it’s all there. But another cool thing about lists is that they reach another area of the brain and help make it so. I created a to-do list for a lovely needy historic home and then that list got filed away. A decade later, I came upon it once more and delighted in the fact that every single item on that list, from redoing the hardwoods to remodelling the bathroom, to landscape lighting got taken care of.
Following through is the ultimate act of love. When you can trust your own words, that means a whole lot because you can then trust yourself. Giving yourself weight, respect and significance of meaning what you say and saying what you mean is the very essence of love and self-respect.
Call it branding. In fact, there is a great article “Brand You” that I read a long time ago on this very topic. As we go about living life, we are actually creating our brand. Who and what do you stand for? When people think of you, what would be the very first things to come to mind? Honouring yourself begins with following through on commitments, both to yourself and to others. This can also include following through in abusive situations, with managing your personal boundaries. We teach people daily how we wish to be treated by how and what we allow into our lives and by the boundaries we set with them. We are empowered to gently but firmly maintain those boundaries from anyone who disrespects them and us. If you find yourself in a situation where you have failed to follow through on your best life then know that you are empowered to change this now.
With 2017 looming large, get pen and pad out and start planning your follow through today.