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There Is Spirit In Our Actions

 

This book, Random Acts Of Kindness by Amy Newmark is a great book to read when you’re feeling nobody cares or want a great sweet dose of happiness before bedtime.  I’m a huge fan of random acts of kindness and paying things forward.

Greed, and the drive to gain more is at the root of most cruelty and inconsideration toward others.  When we comprehend that this world is symbiotic, as we give we get, we begin to release the grip on greed and avarice. The universe is plentiful and yet so many times we live like we are grasping for the last slice of cake.  There is always more cake, we just need to see the world as the mother of expansion that it truly is.  Most of our abundance issues stem from childhood, from training that there isn’t enough or that you must work very hard to attain it.
Back in the 50’s & 60’s there was much talk about how technology would allow folks to slim down their 8 hour work day to 4 and acquire so much more leisure time.  This could have taken place but greed got in the way of it.

Tesla offered us free electricity.  But the governing powers in place wanted cash for this new find. Having to pay for things brings it down to the haves and the have nots which is so inherent in the way we have set up our monetary system. That being said, nothing about this is going to change, but we can adopt a kinder and more generous approach to everything we do.

I believe that everything upon the earth, all creatures, contains a spirit.  While we are imperfect beings, we are also filled with that same spirit.  Because we are one of the few animals we know of who can reason using higher reasoning skills, make tools,  and plan for our future, this means we have a higher moral responsibility to do the right thing and cause the least harm while we are here.  You may read this and think I misstepped about the higher reasoning and tools or future planning that other animals exhibit?  Nope.  Firstly, we actually don’t know everything.  We have yet to understand whale or dolphin communication, for example.  As much time as we have spent studying the animals, it seems many of our takeaways are superficial and spotty.  Many educated people still believe the other animals don’t have higher thought or feelings etc.  Crows use tools to get at food, proof of higher thought. I have seen dogs use a tool.  My brother’s dog used to put a tennis ball between his back and the couch and move so that he got a back massage.  He did this repeatedly until he worked all his kinks out.  Tool use.  Squirrels and other animals will store food for later, proof of future planning.  One animal may save another of a different species, showing compassion and moral responsibility or love.  Pigs are known for protecting their human caretakers if they are treated well.  A dolphin’s mate will go down with the one caught in the net, refusing to leave him/her.  When they love and when they trust,  they give their all.  With Humans, sometimes it’s all pretending, something might be held back or change on a whim. Of course, we can also love deeply madly truly, but we employ trickery far more than the other creatures do although I know of dogs who fool the others in the pack that somebody is at the door, for example, in order to sneak and eat all the treats meant for everybody.    Humans can be tricky and some of us can be quite delightful too, but with the other animals, you get what is real all the time.  As Billy Joel would lament, you get honesty which here on planet human is such a lonely word.

We don’t corner the market on higher thought or higher action to be sure. And where many of us have lost our way,  losing it to greed and a what’s in it for me today mentality,  I believe that the other animals already grasp that every action contains spirit.  I try to mirror them in my actions.  I work daily to be kinder and honest and to give the right spirit to others.

Greed and Selfishness ruin everything, including us.
I rent out a 109 year old Edwardian duplex that I have had magnificently restored.  This is the kind of home you see in great shelter catalogs with fantastic bones, space and loads of light.  A tenant, with whom I have been more than fair with, moved at the end of their year term and left the place in such filth it was evident they never once cleaned.  Grease peeled up under my fingernails on the stone kitchen backsplash and counters …and this was after paying for 15 hours of professional cleaning!  Yes the cost of cleaning will come out of the deposit but I wondered at the spirit of these individuals.  Did they feel they don’t own so why bother?  Were they depressed?  Did they feel unworthy of such a great space that they had to trash it?  Was this all somehow sticking it to the man?  While it may appear on the surface of things that when we look out for just ourselves and screw the other party, that we are winning, we absolutely aren’t accomplishing a win.  Acting in greed leaves the soul bereft.  If all we are, in the end and all we were in the beginning, was spirit, this is a serious matter as the soul is the one thing we retain, what and who we actually are with the skin we wear simply a covering.
Taming the stirrings of covetous greed can be challenging.  I have a young man who calls me mom.  He has cleaned up his life from drugs, and inherited a nice fortune.  He is kind and helpful and giving.  And so yes, there is always a hand out for the take.  When he recently said no, the person asking for his money took it upon themselves to dig up online his value. All of this really doesn’t matter because fortunes change.  By applying yourself and following your passions, your truth, this is how you bring home the revenue for yourself and your family.  You don’t need somebody else’s.  The thing is, whether it’s a Porsche or a Pinto, a mansion or a yurt, car is a car and a home is a shelter.  Granted, a nicer car, one well made,  is going to be a nicer experience, than something cheap and crappy.  But you can buy expensive crap, see my story on my misbegotten Lexus LS600HL that my 1995 Toyota outperforms.  The thing is, if the function of a thing is there, then how it looks becomes secondary.  How it looks may be important to you and I will admit looks for me are absolutely a driver.  But I am less caught up in the labels of things and more caught up in how I like the looks and function of a thing.  Keeping up with the Joneses is unnecessary for happiness.  What matters is keeping up with yourself, owning and embracing who you are and honoring this with what you surround yourself with.

My father was a great businessman.  He was fair-minded and kind, had a lot of friends with whom he did business who returned the favor and did business with him.  He did almost all of his shopping locally from businesses who created a lot of product locally as well. He taught me by quiet example, how business and relationships work.  they work best symbiotically, when we support each other by buying or trading for what we need with someone in our circle that has that item or product.  While I do a lot of online shopping, I am mindful of shopping with folks who buy organic skincare from me,  read my blog or have hired me to help them move toward a Plant-Based lifestyle.  By sharing each other’s talents, this is how we all succeed.

Great Suggested Reading, just click on the titles:

The Spiritual Nature of Animals – Karlene Stange

Tesla – Man Out Of Time

Tangled Vines – Frances Dinkelspiel – History that reads like a novel

The Animals: Compromise & Divinity

All of us are inherently corrupt in some way. The world, in fact, is filled with corruption and before we ever do a thing to it.  I believe this is due to the fall of man the bible talks about.  Perhaps it is truth that once the lion lay with the lamb, everyone was dining on manna from heaven and life was sweet.  We wanted more and then all hell broke loose.  We compromise and while the laws are written upon our hearts, we war with our ego, our desires and principles.

Because of the imperfection inherent in our condition, our fault if the bible is to be believed, then the goal becomes ahimsa or causing least harm.  But we know we will cause harm.  The gas guzzler is swapped out for an electric or hybrid. Both still burn oil and create battery waste.  Some folks eat off paper plates so their dishwashing is reduced but their trash footprint is larger. So the goal is baby steps toward kindness and causing least harm, with the compassionate understanding that none of us is perfect, nor will we ever be fully enlightened on this plane of existence, but we do have a goal of it.  The meat eater pets and perhaps cherishes his cat. The vegan kills plants. I sprout stuff all week long, just to watch it grow a wee bit and eat it.  In my Hippocrates studies, I was taught that sprouts talk to each other while growing as well as pick up on the energy and mineral needs of the individual growing them, through touch.

In The Secret Life Of Plants, by Peter Tompkins, we explore the spiritual relationship between plants and man.
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In Intelligent Trees, we learn from a forester, Peter Wohlleben,  about how trees in a forest support one another and it is completely fascinating as I have always thought of the roots being their brains.  Turns out I was not far off the mark with this.

Anyone who sets themselves up as ‘better than’ is under the employ of human vanity.  There may be someone who out vegans you, someone who creates far less trash, lives in a yurt and rides a bike.  Sure there are indeed folks who do things greener, walk a lighter footpath on the earth, but the point is that all of us are here do cause harm, are not perfect and are merely learning our way back toward the lost enlightenment.  And as the fall wasn’t any other animals fault but ours, I believe it is these creatures we inhabit the planet with that aid us greatly in our crawl back to sainthood.  It is in understanding and loving them that allows us to be more patient with each other.

If you’re looking to explore a great read, check out Karlene Strange, The Spiritual Nature of Animals. 

I find love, in my current flawed condition to be nearly equal parts awe and annoyance.  Of course, the love bit wins out over the annoyance bit, but it is definitely a humbling struggle.  I marvel at the love and full-on trust bestowed upon me. I marvel at the workmanship of my creatures, how they are so perfect in form and function, so beautiful and so emotionally sweet and balanced.

Hydra & Loki, pictured to the left there, were brought into the house after our very well behaved Tiger cat passed away.  They are such a handful that I promised my husband no more kittens.  Loki, the guy sitting in the pot, is fairly well behaved and very loving.  He just cannot get it through his head what not to scratch at, such as the carpet or the furniture.  He knows better by now but just keeps at it.  I have employed sprays and he has a plethora of scratchers and toys, which he loves.  Mostly, though, he is a loving cat and tries to behave. He was really rambunctious and not much of a lover as a kitten.  But now he is very snuggly as I have taught him this.  He used to draw blood with his love bites and has now learned not to bite or to bite super softly (Good kitty). Hydra, the kitty outside the pot, is just one of the sweetest cats ever.  She keeps her claws retracted when playing, including her back legs when she is really going at your arm! And, she even inhibits her bites.  I taught her none of this.  I was only very gentle with her as I am with all my animals.  As a tiny kitten, every time I picked her up, she’d begin purring.  She wasn’t well and I had to boost her with some goats milk.  But she is also the most clumsy cat I have ever known and I have known many cats.  It’s not just about knocking stuff off the counter because that’s fun to do, it’s mostly about running pel mell into stuff and just not managing to avoid it.  We have lost thousands in all the damage, all the broken pottery and glass.  I have glued stuff down with putty, put things way high up, but she manages to break something on a regular basis. She is also first at the door to greet me home and tell me how much she loves me.

While our animal companions are very trainable (for the most part) and they love us and want to please us, we humans struggle with applying ‘human’ logic to them.   Animals do have a sense of fairness and of what is right, ethical, but it is contained within their particular perspective as first what they are (dog, cat, fish, lion, elephant, whale) and then all that is coupled with their individual personality and what has, so far, shaped their life and mindset, how each was individually socialized.  Our pets may know you leave all day Monday through Friday, for example, and they know the time you leave and should arrive back at the home, however they have no concept of why, that you may be earning the kibble wherever it is that you go.  They do, however, know where you were, based on the smell.

They know, given consistency,  when you will be leaving and arriving back home, when it’s the weekend where things may relax and perhaps they can expect dog park time or extra loves.  They sense so much from us in both our tone and body language but they don’t know that your handbag or wallet cost $500.00 and they don’t care.  They may, if you jerk the wallet away exclaiming ‘No, bad!’ that this action was a wrong choice and perhaps not ever chew your wallet again.  Or it may take several firm but gentle coaching sessions to effect that change.  Our Doberman had a penchant for underwear, left shoes and walls.  Fortunately I worked from home and could catch him enough times that the walls weren’t badly damaged and although I did go through numerous left shoes, (no idea why just the left) and a payload of undies, he finally stopped playing with ‘My Toys’ and grasped, as I kept repeatedly re-directing him to one of is, began grabbing his own stuff to play with and chew up.  Just like we get, they get bored or stressed out, smell you on the item and begin chewing.  They do absolutely care that you are upset but don’t always grasp why unless you catch them in the act, right away, and correct them.  Correcting them should never include physical violence.  And it really shouldn’t include yelling (pointing finger at self right now).  Remember that we have created ‘money’ and applied that ‘value’ to our stuff.  The rest of the world doesn’t run like this or think in those terms.   Hydra has no idea what money is or that I culled a very special collection of Mid-Century Modern tchotchkes to feather our MCM home with.  She just ploughs right through them, then comes running to me trilling when she sees that I am angry (hears me yelling) and wants to comfort me by offering up her joy and sweetness.  She is the ONLY cat I have ever known that literally comes running to my aid when I raise my voice at her.  And once, Loki looked so quizzically at me as he gently touched his nose to mine, staring into my eyes the entire time, as I ranted about something he had just done to upset me.  I guess it is a good thing they don’t fear me, so yelling aside, I do many things right.

 

 

 

Our Dobie is (mostly) very well behaved, however, he is exceedingly stubborn, ‘The most willful dog I have ever known’ as the vet put it, and is also quite demanding of treats, more food, more time, more pets, more walks, more engagement.  He can also chill as he is doing right now.  But oh yes, once I am done typing, that walk had better happen! In all seriousness, he is a very well behaved boy.  He is also very self-possessed and feels comfortable telling me exactly what he wants. He feels safe, deeply loved and knows he is a part of our family.  His sleep is untroubled except when he went through bloat surgery and whined in his sleep because of the pain.  I love our trust and how much I have come to fully know this creature that shares our residence. I also feel protected in his presence and have learned all his different bark tones that tell me if it is someone we know at the door, how well we know them or a stranger that he likes or a stranger he really doesn’t.

I really love this book, On Talking Terms With Dogs by Turid Rugaas which blew me away because I really thought I had pieced quite a bit of my dog’s communication together.  After reading this book, I noticed Rhett going first into a play bow, then looking away briefly, before making eye contact again with another pup, then repeating the procedure.  It’s the looking away bit I didn’t understand, but it basically means ‘I don’t want to fight you’  So my dog, who was confronted with this other pup that was growling and charging a bit aggressively, was essentially saying that he was here to play and did not want to fight. How brilliant!  And the other dog absorbed all that message!  After Rhett repeated the body language a few times,  the once aggressive dog went into a play bow too and looked away briefly then back etc. Game On!

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I take a lot of time to simply marvel at the animals in general and specifically at the ones in my home.  Each is a snowflake, unique and never to ever be created again.  Once Tiger kitty exited this plane of existence, that was it.  Sure there’s no shortage of cats, but I am left heartbroken.

Each animal is similar and unique.  Given the chance to shine their personality, you will find it in a chicken, a goat, cow, horse, pig, you name it.  And each one will love you and communicate with you in their own individual way.

Mathew Scully writes a compelling book, Dominion,  about the struggle we have with our own power and how we cause suffering to the animals.  A lot of what we call stubborn or not minding sometimes is simply body language.  They don’t speak English (except some birds), although they often do learn what it is we are saying to them provided they spend enough time with us to learn.  So, their way of communication back to us (and their kind), becomes bleats, sighs, screams, chortles, huffs and tons of body language.

We may believe we own a creature and perhaps under the laws in place, we do, however,  under the laws of the universe, we don’t own anything.   I can assure you that the cow, pig, dog, cat, bird you think you own absolutely do not see things in this way at all!  These creatures see themselves as individuals just as we see ourselves.  Based upon their own personality coupled with their life experiences thus far, they view you as a friend, acquaintance,  family or pack – heard member or maybe someone to fear, avoid or someone to love and to draw closer to.  They are either actively engaging you, trying to build upon or begin a relationship with you or they have given that up because of what outcome they encountered.  In giving up, they generally look away and keep to themselves. Many damaged souls are in this shape at shelters who have to learn that not every human is abusive.  They have their own thoughts, preferences, joys and pain just as we do.  Most of the communication is all in the body language and their eyes.  They want their friends, their kind, they are curious, and want comfort, to play, to engage and they definitely see themselves as a part of life and, where appropriate, they do consider themselves as a part of the team.  They get bored if there isn’t enough to do.  They blossom when they are deeply loved and cared for.  Just as we do, they bond where that is appropriate.  A dog left in the yard all day long and by himself with little to no interaction with you is very unlikely to guard you or your property.  Why should he care?  Where is his skin in this game?  But when he loves you, yes.

The Chain, by Ted Genoways, a poet, centers around Hormel and Spam and the cruel accident prone fast-paced production lines in packhouses across America.

Seeing the baby goats and calves taken from their mothers just days old is heart-wrenching.  The mothers have no idea why this is happening and are gut wrenched time and time again as we repeatedly do this on the new factory farming model.  The babies are confused innocents in all this cruelty perpetrated on them as they JUST enter the world.  Watching a baby goat with its mother, given a chance at joy, they prance around and are just so cute.  They don’t know that we are bringing souls into the world for the purposes of harvesting them for food.   In the wild, there was a bit of democracy going on, survival of the fittest.  The majority of the heard would survive if they worked at it.  We have changed the game in our farming methods where that is barely possible.  Once in a blue moon, a pig or cow escapes, it makes the news and people rally to save him or her.  But we have largely lost our compassion for these creatures and we need to change our mindset and lessen our grip on evil.

If things had just remained the way they were, say back in the 50’s and 60’s, where the animals we were raising for food were treated well, had sunshine and fields to play in, weren’t continuously raped to remain pregnant milk producers, stayed with their babies, with us taking the surplus milk, old dairy cows going out to pasture, I don’t believe this topic would have ever come up and i would never be writing this.  While killing is still killing and I believe a direct correlation to our fall, it was done at a far saner pace and the animals got to live a decent life first.  Seeing all the abuses is what turned me off meat and dairy.  I haven’t had ice-cream in 2 years.  I believe we are ruining the planet with all the byproduct waste, the rain rainforest demolition and soil erosion necessary to feed our meat and dairy wants.  Believe you me, they are wants and not needs! One lb of beef requires over 2000 gallons of water.  Folks, this is not sustainable.  Plants have more bioavailable protein than meat ever could. And you won’t suffer chronic disease by switching to a plant-based diet.  Our soul, our divinity, is crushed along with the animals spirits as lives are taken in these sped up no light zero kindness factory farming methods employed today to speed up the kill process.  The way is not perfect because we cannot achieve that here, but the way is making daily choices in our lives which cause the least harm to others.

Mumbo Jumbo Homeopathic & Alternative vs Allopathic (Western) Medicine

The photo is of my morning Wheatgrass shot. I get into some interesting conversations.  I believe a lot of people feel that things are all or nothing.  We choose a path, then perhaps we get a bit comfortable and get stodgy about it.   Because we are all here to help each other, I feel the mind should remain open and our heart compassionate because none of us are perfect beings.  No matter where we are in our years or schooling, we are always learning if we are moving forward.

In speaking with someone the other day in the healthcare field, I mentioned a herb and the immediate retort was ‘Oh, I don’t know anything about that if it’s not science-based, it doesn’t exist for me. everything must be proven by science.’  I gently explained to this individual that pharmaceuticals originated from the plant kingdom.  Science in fact, did not invent them.  What science has since done, and I disagree with, is synthesized and added chemicals and fillers for profit margins and patents and so, therefore, is mostly all about the money now, the big Pharma Machine.  Go to any doctor or vet, and just watch. All supplements and original medicines came from plants.  Further, the practice of medicine did not originally require a formal degree. When I began my career in telecommunications, there were no degrees in it.  Now there are. As we learn we find a way to formalize things, teach them and a way to make money at it too.  I suggested that rather than judge harshly, we consider that plants are the origin and we had the alternatives,  homeopathy and Chinese modalities far longer than we ever had allopathic medicine.  I suggested a good marriage between Western Medicine and the ‘alternative’ or as I see them, the complementary modalities.  There is absolutely a time and a place for all of it because they can complement and augment each or be used individually depending on the situation and condition.

Holistic Medicine
We hear a lot about holistic medicine.  Holistic medicine treats the entire patient, believing a dysfunction in one area affects the whole person/animal, not just that one area of the body or mind.  I like this approach because it broadens the scope to look at all things related, perhaps the diet, for example, and treats the entire being as a whole. I feel this creates wellness at the core and resilience.  Rather than treating just symptoms, we take a look at what’s happening and find out why and how we may apply treatment for whole healing.

Alternative Medicine

Now, upfront, I find this term riotous!   “Alternative Medicine” refers to alternative medical systems other than allopathic or traditional (conventional) western medicine.  What’s funny about this is the fact that these include traditional Chinese Medicine, Homeopathy,  Herbalism and Floral Essences which have been around ages longer. 

Homeopathy

This controversial 250 yar old alternative medicine has been around since the late 18th century.  A biologist, Dr. Samuel Hahnemann created it on the premise that like cures like.  Using minute quantities of a substance that would, in larger quantities, make a well individual produce the same symptoms, homeopathy provides a wee bit (the poison is in the dose as they say) to effectively rebalance the body.  Like the holistic approach discussed earlier, Dr. Hahnemann believed the body needed to be treated as a whole unit so we work with the constitution of it.  I use homeopathy on my dog as well as the whole family.  While the substances in them can be tiny, the believe this man had was that substances, when diluted, can become far more potent.

Western Medicine

Most of us are very familiar.  The standout here is in emergency work, saving lives in crisis.  (See my Canine Bloat story) The downside is that I don’t believe we need all the shots and pills big pharma is pushing.  All the way around, there needs to be far more focus on Hippocrates’ truth, which is to let food be thy medicine and thy medicine be food.   We are all responsible for our health so if we aren’t eating correctly a pill is not going to be magic.  Sure, it may help lower your cholesterol but at what cost?  So much of pharmaceuticals are toxic.  And recently, I was informed that shots, both human animal and for our pets, contain toxins such as mercury in them!  Yeah, maybe skip that flu shot!

I am 57 and take no pharmaceutical drugs.  We don’t give our fur babies annual shots. And what got me on the path of NOT giving annual shots was actually Hillside Vet, where we took Ting kitty.  Ting had lost her owner and my mother adopted her.  As she lived in an apartment complex, they insisted she be up to date on all shots.  While she had actually been recently vaccinated, she came with no proof.  A vet my mother took her to, gave her the shots, all at once, right between the shoulder blades where all shots used to be administered (and where I remembered them being given as well).  Ting became gravely ill.  And she was getting not one jot better at Hillside on IV fluids, refusing to eat and stuck in a cage costing us quite a pretty penny each day.  I asked to take the cat to my home.  I gave her love, so much love and coaxed her to eat.  She finally recovered but the thing is, during this deluge of illness, the vet noted he was shocked that Ting was administered shots between her shoulder blades, at that neck scruff area and I asked why.  He explained: ‘We give the shots always in the rear leg now.  When we give shots, and the animal gets cancer from them, then there’s not much that can be done.  However, if you give the shots, as we do now, in the rear leg, then you can amputate the leg. And I just heard myself ask why on earth are we giving shots when we know they cause cancer. This is when I began self-education about better more natural healing ways for our pets and discovered  Dr. Martin Golstein The Nature Of Animal Healing which I now use as one of my references. If we know something is bad, we should stop and yet we don’t.  The practice of medicine is called a practice because we are supposed to be learning every day and applying that new knowledge, incorporating it into what we do in efforts to cause no harm.  While I agree there might be an emergency situation where you take something for a few days, etc, I encourage you to look at your lifestyle and that of your pets and determine in a more holistic way what is best.  See my other posts on pet food. Thank you for reading and I appreciate your comments.

 

 

Happy New Year! Start Fresh!

Walk Into 2018 With a Clean Slate!

Happy New Year!  What I love about a new year is that it is a marker for leaving anything that no longer serves you as you go into a new year, a new time, new beginnings.  If chaos seems to follow you around, check what you may be doing (or not doing) that is encouraging this and allow yourself to change that. Where do your loyalties lie?  Do your current relationships serve you or serve to ruin you?  Do they cause more joy or upset?  Do you feel more or less in balance within them?   If you routinely fall into the victim role, feel like you just cannot get it all together, self-sabotage opportunities or you are around or supporting people who are like this, causing you more stress than peace; Leave all this behind in 2017! The mind likes to create stories and habits but BOTH are adaptable, changeable. You cannot change the way anyone around you thinks feels or acts, but you can control yourself and who you allow to remain in your life.  Each day you breathe air, you have an opportunity for growth, to remove blinders (we all have them) and go and do better.  Some folks are stuck in making things harder than they need to be. They want to blame, argue, delay and create what I call High Queen.  My mother used to say ‘This is just how I am’ No, this is just how you programmed yourself.  Begin taking ownership, stop deliberately going off the rails emotionally, self-control is underrated. Life is far too short to start pointless arguments, deliberately cause chaos, or be with anyone that behaves this way.  IF you are used to living with someone that is High Queen, you may struggle at first embracing the quite. Trust, the brain gets used to all this noise and it can take a bit for quiet to sink in, to feel normal. Counting your blessings rather than stirring up drama is far more healthy. Reward those good to you, rather than complain.  See what happens then.   Life is short. Stress causes disease.  Embrace Joy!

2 Things Wrong Theory – Minimizing Chaos Maximizing Joy

An ordered life brings calm.  Our body is our temple and our mind the seat.  Whatever your religious beliefs, big bang theory etc, you can look around you at all the beauty of this world and all the atrocious acts too and conclude two things:  Firstly  – there is good and evil sparring it out here and Secondly  – this planet and everything within it and upon it didn’t just happen.  There is way too much order, beauty and workmanship in everything and how it fits together, from fish to butterflies, to Jaguars to trees.  Nothing had to be this well orchestrated, this beautiful and yet it is.

Part of honoring ourselves, our temple, our seat, is taking care of ourselves by taking care of things around us in such a way that we create calm rather than calamity for both us, our family members and those within our scope.  But because being OCD can also bring chaos, there is value in things being imperfect.  There is, in fact, perfection in the imperfection, if you will.

Now, as one of my dear friends always says when discussing finding a lover or choosing friends, is that you have got to pick your flavour of crazy because we all are.  And another dear friend used to tell me she was looking for someone who had fewer problems than she had.  These two principles can be applied to all areas of life, really.  It boils down to the respect of one’s self, one’s divinity.  All of us being devine in nature, when we get in touch with that grace, then we begin to recognize that we no longer need the fluff of drama injected into everything that we touch. And when I say drama, I mean negative drama because I stand as a big fan of fun drama!

This doesn’t mean that sometimes negative stuff doesn’t simply happen, but rather, it means we are engaged to actively minimize it on a daily basis and we do this out of honor for ourselves and our fellow companions because  we deserve it, we deserve peace and life is stressful enough without adding negative drama on the top of it all.

That stated, here are ways that I actively work to reduce chaos and create peace.

Two Things Wrong Theory –  For anything in my life, whether it’s a car or house, a usable item like a sofa, electronics etc, I strive for not more than 2 things wrong.  In this way, I maintain a 0-2 defect ratio in all things.  If I hit the third thing on the car or house, then I know I am out of balance and promptly get at least one thing that’s wrong, fixed. Honestly, I am rather anal about my cars and home so things get fixed quickly.  This can be tailored to the individual, perhaps you can adopt five things for example or make other adjustments which suit you.  Make it something that is comfortable for you and your lifestyle as well as tailored to what you care most about. For example, you may care more about your home than your car and want 2 or fewer things wrong with your casa but if your car is dirty, you have 3 door dings but it runs, you’re good with that.

Pick your number. For me, nothing in my life has more than two things wrong with it at any given time.  In this way, I don’t feel snowed under with to do lists that I feel I’ll never crawl out from under.  I minimize the heavy expense of fixing a bunch of things at once too.

Love Your Home & Create Peace In It-  Home should be a safe haven, a place where you seek and find comfort, joy and beauty.  You can tell a lot about a person and their psyche by their home.  Conversely, you can mind your brain and heal your nervous system by keeping things tidy.  De-cluttering what is around you orders and calms the brain.  Having things around that give you joy bolster you up with every passing glance just as seeing piles of what needs taking care of can weigh you down.  Even if your home is temporary, it affects you each time you are there.  I’m a big fan of adding even a hint of personality to a temporary space or cubicle and ordering it in such a  way that it provides you clear thinking and peace.  I highly recommend Sacred Space by Denise Linn, it’s one of my reference books on everything from space clearing to meditation. I also have her Feng Shui For The Soul and keep that as a great reference too.

Expect & Buy Quality – To minimize chaos for myself, I strive for things made well.  I don’t mind paying more for this because I generally keep things a long time.  My amplifier is over 2 decades old.  The amp before it was also over 20 years old.  It met its’ demise over a hairball my kitty hawked onto it.  It never stood a chance. One entire channel went toast and in the US, there were no matching parts.  I didn’t think it would ever sound right with mismatched channel components so I shopped for a replacement.    So I buy quality,  take very good care of stuff and my expectation is that they take care of me.

Let Go Of Crap Products –  My Lexus LS600HL is pictured above.  At over 120k MSRP, I thought I had purchased a reliable and solid vehicle and one that would last me decades.  But the thing was a Debbie Downer with a failed water pump, the brake actuator and all four upper control arms going out all at the same time and all at less than 60k miles.  On top of this, the ‘luxury’ of it suffered with poor workmanship.  The leather wrapping the dashboard came totally unglued in a week’s timespan parked not in a garage as was typical, but in the June sunshine. In that same week, the Bezel surrounding the console mysteriously cracked as well. Lexus Corp refused to cover the dash and only partially covered the rest. The thing ate money.  Now, I was completely fine paying all that cash up front, and being overcharged on general maintenance for the rest of my life.  But I got completely pissed off paying months of salary every quarter on things car makers should already know how to do in their sleep!  I’m in a Jaguar now.  I got everything fixed on the misbegotten Lexsucks except the bloody dashboard and sold it to Carmax for 7k higher than the dealership offered to buy it back!  In the most respectful way I can say it right now, Lexus? Sodd directly off! Never again will I purchase a new Lexus or Toyota product.  You will note that I created signs and added letters to the back end around the ‘L’ to spell Awful Lousy and I had fun for a few months discussing the car, parking in prominent places all over town sharing my story.  But at the end of the day, the vehicle was not bringing me the peace I bought it for.  I had named it Zen and it wasn’t happiness anymore when I never knew when the next break would happen.  So, whatever you personally expected or paid for something, let it go if it’s crap.   Just get it out of your life. In this situation, karmically, I repaired the car and to the best of my abilities assured (Per Sewell Lexus in Dallas) that nothing else was, at that moment, wrong with the car.  I turned it over to Carmax still owing repair bills, with a fresh oil change, ready for the new owner who will hopefully avail themselves of the Carmax extended warranty.

Take Care Of Your Stuff – I try to apply the minimum pressure to things such as buttons and dials, keep it clean, polished, lubed, whatever to keep it humming smoothly.  When you buy with care and take pride and care in what you have, it is amazing how long stuff can last.  This is why we have appliances from the 60’s still working in kitchens today.  Also, the recent shift has clearly been to make crap.  I don’t suffer crap very well.  So when we expect quality and choose to no longer put up with junk, that is when companies will be incited to create better merchandise.

A Throw-Away Society Is Ruinous To The Entire Planet – When we create throw away items or when we as consumers buy things that we don’t take care of, causing them to wear out faster, we affect the ecosystem of our planet.   There’s a girl who writes a blog about how her life has been creating zero trash.  https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-16168/i-havent-made-any-trash-in-2-years-heres-what-my-life-is-like.html
I am nowhere close to that level of recycling and green, but the post has inspired me to do better since the day I first read it.  It has made me far more aware of all the things I purchase, whether it is something which can be reused and if not, what else I might buy or use instead that will not trash the planet.

Downcycle By Giving Away (or selling) What You No Longer Use or Need – Recently, a neighbor put out a box to the sidewalk area (code for take it if you want, it’s free) with a nice note stating it was a Dell Monitor and that it worked very well, they had just upgraded and didn’t need any longer.  Well, it just so happened I needed a monitor for my contract job.  I didn’t open the box until I got to my cubicle the following Monday. Let me tell you, I was impressed with the care and level of attention paid to re-wrapping all the cables, cords and whatnots.  The monitor was clean and looked like new.  I wrote a thank you card introducing myself and how much I appreciated that monitor!    I love paying it forward and what a thrill it was to actually get something so fabulous.

Expect Quality in Yourself – While I am far from perfect, I do try to eat right, no meat, dairy, lots of raw veggies and I use organic skincare routines and work out.  I invest in and take ownership of my own well being.  In short, I minimize what can go wrong by being aware of where I am at healthwise and managing my resilience.  Some folks eat like they don’t give two f*cks and people, this is going to show up downstream.  It is never selfish to take care of you.  When you come from a position of strength, you are in the best shape to go help others.

Unhook From Drama – Our mind is a computer that literally programs itself to think in such a way that we tend towards.  In other words, if you tend to be happy and positive, your brain will tend to think positively and if you tend to think oh why me, and life sucks, then your brain will condition that way as well.  If you want change, the trick is being patient for the next 30 days which create the new habit and way of being.  I know people who are continuously in one negative drama after another. They do this simply because this is how they have taught themselves that life is for them.  They don’t know and accept for themselves another path, a new way.  Believe me, there is!   Try a daily meditation such as Rolf Gates, Meditations From The Mat or Meditations on Intentions and Being.  IF you are stuck in a co-dependent relationship, I will say that Melody Beattie The Language Of Letting Go and Co-Dependent No More, HEALED ME!!!  Denise Linn’s books came next into my life and pushed me onwards from there!  I had no idea that I was co-creating drama nor did I know what co-dependent behavior was but oh boy was this toxic!  And I got out.  You can too!

Take love, patience and more calm into each day, each week by breathing before you react and finding small ways to create space and quiet. With time it gets easier as your new habits are formed which will add quality and resilience to your life!

Be Blessed. ♥

PURE TEMPLE LOOK BETTER FEEL BETTER LIVE BETTER LAUNCH!

Hi everyone!  I am excited!  Please join me Saturday for my Bioceutica launch from the comfort of your home.  This is a quick call to introduce you to additional healthy options being introduced at PureTemple.

As most of you know who read me, my goal is helping folks live a vegan plant-based lifestyle,with a focus on raw foods,  to make efforts toward daily detoxing and eschewing chemicals and toxins from their daily lives, from buying organic clothing to being mindful of their home cleaning supplies.

To this end, I represent 3 plant based supplement, skin and body care lines. ONLY 9% of Vitamins on the market are good.  The rest contain motor oil, coal tar, turpentine, petrochemicals and are very unhealthy! Rather than actually helping us out, they cause damage. In a polluted world, daily detoxing, a focus on a raw plant based diet and good supplementation are necessary.

You are invited to attend my Bioceutica launch this Saturday and discover great non toxic skin and body care products, custom supplements and wonderful makeup shades for the ladies. Bioceutica’s cornerstone is their customized supplements, tailored to your body, based upon test results you send in after completing your Privatest.

Suzanne’s Look Better, Feel Better, Live Better Launch
WHEN Nov 11, 2017 2:00 PM Central Time

Join from PC, Mac, Linux, iOS or Android: https://zoom.us/j/294971718

Or iPhone one-tap :
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Meeting ID: 294 971 718

There will be a secondary call, you to hop on Facebook, from the comfort of home, Tuesday 11/14 at 7 pm (MST) for a Gratitude Giveaway-over $200 in giveaways!! I love this product line and Its short overview of the products so you can enjoy all those that interest you. I would so appreciate if you could check it out, win free goodies at the same time!! You will be glad you did! Please join in! 🙂http://www.facebook.com/events/126471184704902/

Stop Creating Negative Drama!

Walking onset every morning of your life to applause is great.  You take your bow for breathing that morning and smile for the happy adoring minions and life is good.  Perhaps those adoring crowds are filled with your beloved family members, your cat, dog or significant other or you enter the workplace a hero on that day.  All this is good drama.   But a lot of us self-sabotage by co-creating negative dramatics because we don’t even realize on a conscious level that we are doing this!  Welcome to your personal wake up call.  It’s here, right now and yes, you so please don’t hit snooze, but share to anyone you believe needs to hear this message today.  Pay the day forward in that kindness.

Creating negative drama is a learned behavior.  We learn from parents, from relatives and from cash-strapped friends growing up.  I remember being in my 20’s, working 5 and 6 jobs concurrently and always feeling the stress of paying the rent and whether there would be food to eat that week.  Whenever we live in a situation that causes us to logically truly really worry over things, this habit becomes formed of worry and of creating the drama over and over again.  The difference is that this drama can shift as we grow from oh, God, where’s my next meal coming from, to drama with other aspects such as our personal life and friends.  In other words, if we are not mindful, we can actively co-create drama where there need not be any at all.

We may devalue ourselves, our worth by choosing folks around us that bring us down, who don’t have our best interest in their heart.  We may become impulsive and purchase things that financially cause strain.  We may endanger ourselves with negative relationships by blindly trusting,  giving too much of ourselves away too soon to a stranger.  You may have had someone in your life that was very controlling, that you never pleased.  This can set the stage for you to personally feel at a very deep level that you are never enough.  And no matter who you had in your life that was positive, having a parent who you can never please is far more than a buzz kill; it can set you up with a lifelong disability.  I know from my own personal Mommy Dearest.

Rather than just be a walking statistic or think there is something intrinsically wrong with you, know that each of us is here for specific reasons and that whatever work you do in life, you are the only individual on the planet that can bring you to the task.  Do so with humbleness, awe and pride.  It matters not whether you are a writer, pick up trash, heal people or manage a project.  Give yourself to the task as only you can.  Do work that resonates with your soul, work that is in line with your ethics because otherwise, the job will kill you. Even a temporary job can align in some way with your long-term goals and ethics. not everything is forever but your soul is.

All of us are walking wounded in some way no matter who you encounter.  The goal is to be kind and mindful of this while honoring your own goals and value.  You can be kind without being a patsy. Never mistake kindness for weakness.  People do this all of the time.  It takes amazing strength to be kind, particularly in the face of cruelty, and I really believe this is what God meant when he said the meek shall inherit the earth.  Being kind does not, however, mean allowing anyone to trample over your personal boundaries.  You can step back and observe any situation and diplomatically address what works and what doesn’t for yourself.

Look for the re-runs on that show you just watched.  If you have a scene, somebody cheats on you or otherwise uses you, or you find yourself losing another job in a fairly short succession, you notice that stuff keeps playing out for you the same or similar? Ahem, then the common denominator is you.  You are co- creating the situation by setting the stage perfectly to have the very same negativity take place in your life.  This could be to fix a bad family dynamic, overcoming drug addiction, but it is a strong signal that you need to take a step back and work on you.  Get some self help and heal my friend.   There is no shame in being a bit tweaked, we all are.  The shame is in continuing to blame others and refuse to look in the mirror and make the necessary changes.  Now, you may say, ‘but the person at work went off the rails or my spouses always end up abusive and it’s not me, it’s them.  My friends always betray me so they are the ones to blame.’  Here is the rock bottom of this: YOU chose to have these people in your life.  If they are a parent, then you are choosing to continue that relationship, knowing full on well it is a toxic one.  People tell you who they are in the first 10 minutes…if you are really listening.  It’s true!

You cannot change the way someone else thinks, feels or acts, but you do have control over yourself, how you choose to think, feel and act. You can re-program your thinking any time you like because 30 days makes a new habit!  This is not about entitlement, being overly proud of who you are and what you deserve, it is about being real with yourself, your goals and honoring why you are here.  All of us deserve peace and support along our journey.  It can be so very easy to get down into the fray at times with negative people saying ugly things.  These are people who truly don’t deserve you, don’t deserve your time or your presence so make an exit away from high negative drama wherever you see it being repeated.  The world can be harsh so wherever feasible,  surround yourself with things and people and places which uplift you, bring joy and camaraderie and cater to calm.

Recommended books, just click on the hi-lite.d text for the link :  

Good Karma: How to Create the Causes of Happiness and Avoid the Causes of Suffering 

Choosing Peace: New Ways to Communicate to Reduce Stress, Create Connection, and Resolve Conflict (Mediate Your Life: A Guide to Removing Barriers to Communication Book 1)

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The Best Pure Water At Home CWG & Zero Water Pitcher Review

We live in a damaged world, one in which we humans are 100% culpable.  Plastics and pharmaceutical drugs are in all municipal water supplies.  Cities don’t want to spend the money necessary to clean up our drinking water.  And we wonder why we have chronic illnesses running rampant.

Today I wanted to talk about Clear Water Revival or CWG which is Dr. Speiser’s organization where he is both skilled, knowledgeable and passionate about cleaning up your drinking water. If you go to his site to look around,  use referral code ‘puretemple’ for a discount!
Roy lectured on water during my Hippocrates training so I immediately looked him up.  His website is full of great information and Dr. Speiser will get on the phone with you and he can look up your zip code and tell you just how badly your water is doing.

I am currently saving for a whole house filtration system for our bad Dallas water.  The whole house, for us will run just under 2k plus hiring the plumber.  I have a master bathroom remodel in mind and plan to incorporate all that work with the plumber and have both pure bathing and drinking water!

When you bathe or shower, the body drinks up about 6 cups of water so it is really very important to clean up both what you purposely drink as well as what you shower or soak in.

Water also has TDS or Total Dissolved Solids from Agricultural runoff.  Ain’t nobody got time for that.  It should not be in our water supply!  But the very good news is that CWG will be able to totally clean up your water, making it pristine and re-mineralized.

What if you want to clean up your drinking water but don’t have 2k right at the moment or reside in an apartment?  This is where the Zero Water Pitcher comes into play along with some re-mineralizing supplementation with Super Hydrogen sticks.   The Zero water pitcher is appropriately named.  Also featured in my Hippocrates training as one of the best ways to purify your water on the road, I use this puppy at home.  It removes TDS, chlorine, fluoride and other contaminates however in that process, there is a term ‘dead water’ when the water is stripped of its minerals and all that life that is normal for it to contain…living waters.

What I do at the house for the bath is use a filter for the showers and bath water.  You may notice, as I did, a ‘calmer’ feel to the water.  Knowing I am doing something good for me that reduces toxic exposure makes it worthwhile.  For drinking, I have a few more steps.  First, I use the zero water pitcher.  Next, I put all the purified water into a glass vessel on top of our kitchen island for the whole family to drink from.  In the vessel, I have the mineral sticks.  But I also take some of the water out of the Zero and let it sit overnight in a copper pitcher which is an ayurvedic principle but guys!!!  Going onto Amazon to provide these links for you, I see they now have THIS, 219oz Indian Art Villa Handmade Pure Copper Water Dispenser!  How gorgeous!  I am probably good just doing the pitcher since over time, the water is going to have a more distinctive taste the longer it sits in the copper vessel.  One of the things it helps with is grey hair if you are prematurely greying due to mineral loss.   And so yes, I have been all over the copper like white on rice, baby!  But as I drink this pure and nicely mineralized water, I think about how this is helping my body, my bones and teeth which over time can lose minerals and get creaky.  Ain’t nobody got time for that!  Be healthy and please post a comment on how you enjoy the products and health recommendations I write about.  I love hearing from you!

Toxin Free Skin & Body Care

As a plant-based lifestyle consultant, I advocate clean skincare, body care and home care, free of toxins, because we are all overloaded in today’s world. It’s not about whether the products
you use today work, they most likely do, however at what cost is the question? We need to ask this question because over 70% of everything we apply on our skin soaks into our body.
Below are links to my blog as well as direct links to 3 fabulous product lines. Whether you wish to detox, order plant-based vitamins, or detox your home or skincare regimen, you will find
pure and potent products here. A few things I am excited about: Bioceutica’s Intuitive Reverse 20 de-aging face pack, and their Priva Test that checks how your body is doing and what
added nourishment you might need; Miessence SuperFoods and Essante’s Z3 Facelift Pack & laundry detergent. Also with these lines comes opportunity, for both personal vibrant health
and a busines opportunity if interested. Enjoy your exploration and reach out to me with any questions.

www.bioceutica.com/puretemple
www.EssanteOrganics.com/Puretemple
http://www.miessence.com/puretemple/en/category/1/skincare

How Expendable Am I – Service – Domestic & Otherwise

 

Debbie Downer Dashboard

 

Most everything we do can be viewed as a service, whether it is removing a cancer, detailing a car, housekeeping, managing a project, implementing a service, driving a cab or going on location picking up after people’s pets. We can also view all of our personal relationships in the same vein.  Everything we do boils down to what it is we offer and the value being placed, currently, on what we deliver.  We are all put on this earth to learn how to love more fully, grow in grace, be less self-centric and help our fellow beings on this planet.  Therefore, service and being in the service of others, is one of the greatest ways we show love and compassion for others.   It is also the best way to grow spiritually.  We all have our best days and those not so.  To keep yourself on the right path and track, it is a good lesson to periodically ask yourself ‘How expendable am I?’ What perception do others have of me and my work?  When I am gone, what mark will I Ieave?

All of us, in fact, are both unique, inimitable, a true treasure and, sadly, expendable. When we are placed correctly, when we give what is at hand our full attention, it is amazing what can be accomplished.  We bring ourselves, our uniquely creative, super smart, funny, dedicated and determined ( or whatever brand you are known by) soul to the work at hand unlike any other.  What we each do is as unique as our fingerprint.  Life here is short, so the goal should be to live our very best life and share out our best efforts.  There is a great article called Brand You.  Google if you haven’t read it.  We brand ourselves by how we present our souls to the world each day.

Perhaps you are known as the go-to Subject Matter Expert, or the most helpful.  Nobody else can do it exactly the way you do it.  And so it is, with this understanding that we are, in the end, expendable.  Being expendable is what keeps us humble as well as on fire to do our best most days.  If you review yourself honestly and don’t like your brand, you can change it by making new, upgraded daily choices, choices that make you more approachable, nicer, easier to work with as well as choices that affect the product you sell, support or produce.

 Brands are everyplace. If you are a window cleaner, are you cordial and happy in your work or too lazy to scope the job prior to giving a price then arrive all grumpy and blame the customer when there’s an extra window to clean?  Do you show up at the office with the latest home drama all a wreck and out of sorts? Do you clean houses but forget about the high dusting, washing the bed linens or baseboards thinking that will somehow go unnoticed? Are you a doctor using old outdated surgical techniques?  Are you someone who likes to stir the pot, micro-manage every teammates’ move, or control every situation?

When someone thinks of you, what do they envision?  What is your personal brand?   When you think of your personal label, that label is also applied to every business.  What do we know Lexus as?  What begins to disintegrate when the company no longer stands for quality?  What happens when all the leather covered dashboards in their high-end cars peel up, look atrocious and the company nicely confirms with you that there is no recall on that item and it will cost 22k to replace that dashboard?  What happens when other mechanical failures take place?  What begins to change about the story of Lexus?  This is my personal story on Lexus, by the way.  Always garaged, it has been a ‘Lexus Lemon’ with prematurely failing parts; a failed leaky water pump, amplifier, suspension parts along with a really knarly dashboard I have to stare at daily.

What happens when you are known for excellent appliances (and charge accordingly) then become the kind of business that slides on quality, ‘offers’ a 3 year warranty and when there’s a problem, you tell your customer you never received their warranty card?

What happens when you are known for upholstery work but you don’t always pull off a quality job?  Instead, you break a clients chair, get the new fabric all dirty, then refuse to return the chair or clean the upholstery you sullied and instead, laugh at and blame the client?  Yes, another personal example.  Doing this chair correctly the first time would of course been the best outcome.  Tarping and otherwise keeping it safe and clean while in the shop to fix the broken bit would have been preferred option 2.  Spending less than $50.00 on cleaning the chair, some wood glue and appropriately sized screws and less than half a gallon of gas to return it, would have been best option number 3.  I would have gone away happy having resolved the situation to my likeing, having my chair back and fixed with the brand spanking new upholstery all fresh and clean like it was.  I did not begin the exchange irate but I sure ended things with the upholsterer that way and I share my story often.  I am no longer burning with anger.  My goal now is to help others NOT have their furnishings potentially suffer the same sorry fate by taking their business there.

Mediocrity is set at the price point we agree to pay.  Each of us votes with our wallet first and by what we stand for when work is done poorly.  When we lower our expectations, don’t demand quality, allow poor workmanship by not saying anything,  we are complicit in the agreement of accepting less than the best from that company or representative.

What have you done for me lately?  Why should I vote with my dollars on your business?  When our focus stops being trained on delivering quality workmanship and excellent customer care, and instead, becomes all about shirking responsibility and getting the money right now rather than having an eye on the bigger picture,  that is when we begin to fail, spiritually and physically.

Sadly, most of us have our own private, or not so private, arsenal of things done wrong to us out of greed, corruption or lack of education and spiritual balance.  Our actions always have intentions behind them.  Those intentions should always be noble.  When they are not, then restitution is in order.  Sometimes, it is an associate who causes the fault but karmically speaking, if there is wrongdoing and you are empowered to change that, then it is foolishness to think you can simply do nothing about it and everything will be just fine.  Spiritually we are our brother’s keeper so we are beholden to our brothers walking this path, like it or not, with each of us weighed and measured by our intentions and actions.  We are only human, so the goal is restitution where possible and assuring that, predominately, your intentions are coming from a pure place.

Fulfilling your service well means taking ownership for what you produce.  The customer is not always right.  But, it is the smart business that delves into the full scope of what took place, make an honest assessment of their employees, their business and what really happened and graciously make the attempt to go above and beyond to change any negative perception because those perceptions live on and spread like a virus.   When you anger a customer, you truly have no control over their actions, both immediate and future. Whether they throw a fit or leave quietly, neither means that this is over for them, or you.  Your customer most likely works someplace, has friends, family, a good internet connection.  They may be a judge, lawyer, work in advertising and be well connected in the community.

When you work for yourself, please understand that you don’t really.  When you are working at my house, that means you work for me and during that particular moment in time, I am your boss.  We all have a man.  None of us escapes working for the man.  It may be a spouse, contract or independent work, volunteer work, or with a big corporation but there are always people to please, folks with expectations from you that you are either meeting and exceeding or failing at.

When you are working with a client you represent the company to that individual.  Missteps happen and not everything, not every situation is going to be remedied.  But here is the outline to make most of them right, correct what went sideways, and then hopefully for the very angry customers who cannot be appeased, perhaps they will one day be in a place to acknowledge you did your best, you attempted a fair resolution.

Cordial – Always be polite and nice.  You don’t really know what kind of day someone you are working with has had, so extend grace.  When you get into a shouting match, you have both already lost and nobody will be able to tell who is the bigger fool.  Keep a level head and let the other person steam away.

Fair – Look for the win-win and be honest with your faults, you will get more respect for that.  If a mistake was made, it should be rectified and swiftly.

Honesty – Don’t quote one price and show up later with a new improved quote twice as expensive with excuses as to why.  Believe me, this will become what you are known for.  People will talk and tell others the story.  Also, don’t lie.  Don’t tell someone you will fix something then walk on that promise.  They may never ever call you to remind you about what you committed to but that absolutely does not mean they forgot about it or that you going back on your word doesn’t matter because it does and yes, they will tell the story. what I have found in my polling is that most folks go quiet in front of the business that burned them, preferring to move on with things.  They do, however, still talk about what happened and share that advertisement and sometimes for years or even decades.  Nobody wins really by being dishonest about the truth of things.

Stability – The best service and the best companies provide a product that is constant, bringing stability to what is delivered to each and every customer each and every time. Instability means your brand cannot be trusted.

Ownership – Take ownership of what you do, the product you deliver.  One bad day, one bungled project may be an ‘oops oh well’ to you but to your client and the business you represent, the end result is that you did not shine and that is the story that gets told.

YOU ONLY CONTROL YOU – You may be in temporary work, or feel that your job doesn’t really matter but trust me, to someone it sure does!   At the end of the day, you have great power to make things happen right, but you have zero control over who hears that story. When you take the high road and offer your level best every day, relationships can turn magical.  Inner peace grows.  Home life and clients improve.  Make your story count by doing your best.