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Less is less & maybe that’s ok

Life can be beautifully simple

Less isn’t more; it’s really less. A friend and I were chatting and I commented that less is not more. He applauded stating he was so grateful I stated that truth. What people really mean when they comment that less is more is that the eye can only see so much at one time. In the world of design, we can fool the eye to believing a space is more expansive than it is, draw the eye up or down, all based upon colours, shots of material and decor. Things too busy can become dizzying to look at. In our old Edwardian, we had many sitting rooms and loads of tchotchkes. In our new home, which is a modern, all the stuff had to be paired down significantly or eradicated prior to moving because it was not right for the new place. It wasn’t meshing well with the new us. We wanted a pad all one level so all the pets and family could be all on one floor. Pairing things down meant more space between stuff, giving the eye a rest. Having space make things easier to clean as well. And as you build up your interior with decor pieces, you find the truly great items really stand out when they have some room to say something. Less is more.

I’ll be 59 this year. Creating some space, making things easier to clean and not having to do a bee dance or agility course to get from one room of the house to another, make sense…makes peace.

Then I was laid off suddenly. Here’s the thing with the whole less is more bit….When you feel wealthy, feel at least comfortable, there’s food on the table, good food, and fluffy pillows on your nice sofa, you have a bit of discretionary income for the things, yoga class, pottery, the housekeeper, chef school, that you really want to include into your lifestyle, then it gets easier to spout on about how less is more. When you feel needy, feel like you may not get all that you want, is when the tendency is to fill your surroundings with more stuff.

My knee-jerk reaction to suddenly having my contract terminated was to get re-employed corporately swiftly as possible with an offer my Contractor brought to me the same day I was let go. That work, sadly, didn’t materialize and then I spiraled. I’m not used to marketing myself or being out of a job. I am used to being in the top 10% at whatever company I work for at whatever job I do. I excel at working with people and love to help solve problems. If only I could get my arse into a new job. I began having nightmares about this job loss and between the overly long hours at a company I worked at for 28 years and this latest that actually forgot to tell me when I was laid off so I continued working at a job I no longer had, I decided perhaps I am done with corporate work. I had just traded in my paid for car so I had a car payment. After a couple of months where I didn’t see a new job on the horizon, I cashed that car in at the dealership. Not having a car in Dallas is not an easy thing at all.

I’d love to segue into this blog, helping folks detox their daily lives, get them using the amazing organic products and help a few animals each week with my massage therapy practice and call it my new life. I don’t require 10k/mo but 5k would be nice. Building this business has taken a lot of time and expense to get up and going. I went from 10k/mo to my $576.00 pension and whatever I sell. So it is with my new situation that I have begun to think about frugality and how less isn’t more at all, it’s freaking less for pete’s sake! But having less may not necessarily be a bad thing. It’s our nature to assume whatever is happening currently, for better or worse, is the way of it. If you’re up high on life right now, the feeling is that this will never end. This high will always be. Conversely, if you’re doubled over in agony, having a pity party on the epic scale, it, too seems to be far more permanent than it actually is as life’s magic twists and turns leaving tendrils of joy, pain, loss, hope, attainment and finally transcendence.

There can also be too much clutter in our heads, in our thoughts. As we clutter our lives with spent magazines, empty cups and too much of even the very nicest of things, we can overfill our heads where there isn’t space or room to quietly contemplate.

Lives and situations change. Also what we can label good or bad really are just experiences and how we choose to classify them. Things are not always as they appear. It is important to be grateful and see all the blessings around you, even in the face of adversity. Whether you are downsizing on purpose or a decision was made for you, take a look around and see where you can scale back so that
as you build up your interior fortitude, with careful meditation on your next steps, you’ll find the truly great ideas really stand out when they have some room to say something. Less is more.

Diluting Your Message – Why You Do What You Do

I’m a plant-based lifestyle coach and my focus is on helping people detox. I took my studies with Hippocrates Health Institute so my guidance is based upon that as a cornerstone. Heading into veganism I was way out of my element at first. But I had already detoxed my makeup bag, personal care and home care 2 decades ago so that bit was easy. What wasn’t, was trying to educate others about these toxic dangers and also provide them fully researched clean, potent and pure options. Now that I was a coach, I wanted to incorporate a holistic practice that wasn’t just about food but the overall lifestyle which is also what Hippocrates and I agree adamantly on. In researching products I could promote with clients, I became a Brand Partner for what I believe to be the top 3 certified organic companies that offer partnerships or affiliations and downstream business opportunities for me and my clients who are also passionate about health and the planet and animals. A friend suggested that by scattering myself between these 3 organizations, I am diluting my message. I don’t see it that way. I see it as providing clean options to my clients and staying fresh and unbiased. Rather than align with and be wholly loyal to one company, I don’t believe any one company can do everything, so I am loyal to my brand, to PureTemple and what she represents. But this comment stuck with me so I wanted to put it out here.

Most of us must work for a living and it can be tricky to align our goals, ethics and monetary needs to the need for monetary sustainment. This blog is about the whole body, holistic wellness so if your spirit isn’t right, that throws the entire system out of whack. Whether the role you do today is temporary or a more permanent one, or in my case where I thought Sprint was temporary back in the early ’80s but ended up working 28 years there, what spirit we take into our day truly matters because not everything is as it seems. Even temporary place holders can be magical places to be.

Honoring wherever you are by acceptance and a willingness to learn is key to moving onward. My husband is in management. Folks these days don’t even give notice when they decide to stop working there, they just no call, no show. I would never dare be that disrespectful because I would prefer to pay goodness forward and never be saddled with the negative karma of purposeful rudeness and lack of empathy. I have seen some weird stuff in my time and you just never know who you will eventually cross paths with so some proactive diligence and attention are very important. Taking the high road leads to peace.

Wherever you are, what you are doing shouldn’t only be a paycheck, it should in some way align with your morals. If you’re vegan, adore animals but work in a slaughterhouse, that is going to be a rough sell, wearing you down and out. Hardening yourself to the truth will also wear you down and out. A friend of mine believes in reincarnation where we get new bodies and try this earthly stuff all over again, after having made plans and agreements ahead of time that we work out on this plane of existence in as many new bodies as it takes. If we get it right, we move onward and upward. If we don’t, we are right back to square. The buddha teaches that this life is pain. When you think about it, that is true. No matter what greatness you achieve in this life, no matter what joys, eventually you are smacked hard with pain. It is a part of this world. I was taught the pain of this world is due to the fall of man. But while some rest upon that and tend to cause more pains than necessary, I actively pursue avoiding unnecessary pain both for myself and others by trying hard to be proactive and diligent in my care. While we will not completely know the truth of spiritual matters on this plane, we can see good and evil at play, we can dial into our moral compass which is God-given and understand that on some level what we do matters as our actions ripple out into the universe of things.

I have gradually learned that it is only with an open mind, that I am able to add to my body of knowledge. When I think I know all the truth of a topic, that is when I let go of opportunity to be better enlightened.

Never lose sight of the opportunity to learn. A couple of decades ago, I left Sprint to work for one of its’ (and my) customers, LabCorp where, as a telecom manager, I was privy to the workings and failings of my old competition. I got to see first hand how ATT, MCI and other smaller players dropped the ball hard while Sprint had a real team behind its clients. After a couple of years, I returned to Sprint and commented that where I once saw our foibles, how we perhaps lost an account to our competition, I now saw, and from a clients perspective, how much we brought to the table.

I adore the saying where you stand depends upon where you sit as it is so true. This is why we all need to sometimes shift positions. It is exactly for this reason that I have shifted careers and am loyal to myself, to my agenda rather than one company or product.

What is your agenda? Other than getting paid, do you love helping people, calming tense situations or making folks laugh? Whatever you do, find some joy and your superpower in it. Coming from my typically long hours as a Project Manager over Implementations, I get that most folks don’t have the time, inclination or energy to double check themselves at every purchase, read every label and be equipped with the knowledge to actually understand what that label is telling them. People are still buying deodorants with aluminum, still getting toxic toothpaste from their dentist, buying toxic laundry soaps and house cleaners and wearing unnatural petrochemical clothing. The average person applies/ingests 200 chemicals by 9am just in getting ready for their day. My agenda is changing all that because I lost my entire immediate family to cancer. Enough with this darkness, let’s get out into the light and make things better! What, deep down, is your leading agenda and how do you incorporate that goal into every day living for yourself?

Who are you loyal to? Nix the Myopia. What and whom are you loyal to and why? You should be able to clearly define your answer and it should be deeper than earning a paycheck. Loyalty is a good thing, and I am saddened to see loyalty crash and burn in Corporate America these days as employees are tossed aside like empty take out cartons. Loyalty should not be misplaced. People get misled and companies can change direction. Remain aware of where your fielty lies. I see misplaced loyalty all the time over money. Most folks believe what they are sold/told and either don’t understand or have the time to take the deeper dive into what it is they are really selling. I was a Brand Partner with a company whom I was told was all natural and chemical free. I know my upline really wanted to believe the lies, however, I began ordering their products because I could not get a full disclosure on ingredients otherwise. With the products came full disclosure on all ingredients and much of it was toxic, full of chemicals and synthetics. I raised the flag and heard crickets not action. No shock no outrage no ‘Yes, I see that now, let me look because I want to help my people live truly cleaner lives.’ With whatever you do for work, try to keep an open mind and do your research rather than sell something less than which slowly erodes your soul.

Be Loyal to You. Here’s the problem; People put all their energy into one place, and can lose sight of themselves, their reason for being there. At the end of the day you have yourself and what you have done. I was taught not to put all my eggs into one basket as a child. And this made a whole lotta sense to me. Sure, you don’t want to get too scattered, but you do want to create new opportunities for growth and minimize your downstream risks. I work in Multi-Level Marketing. When one of my MLMs turned out to be not so natural, I immediately stopped promoting all but 2 decent products. And there went that revenue I was building. But I am loyal to an end goal of detoxing peoples lives so I must honor that. This is what I mean by being loyal to you, to what guides you and never compromise this. Never be comfortable just because you are earning money. End of Last May, I was earning 10k a month in the corporate sector. It was great. I was working an 8 hour day after over 17 years of thousands of non-paid overtime hours that affected my health so I was absolutely in heaven, loved learning something new, helping people, having my time back and earning a fair paycheck. Layoffs were not discussed. Even worse, I was not even told when my job ended because folks forgot to tell me I was laid off. I came to work the next day and started working at a job I no longer had. I mattered that bloody much. I had just bought a new car with a hefty car payment and begun a to the studs master bathroom remodel. Had there been even a whisper of contractors being laid off potentially these are two things I would NOT have started as I moved into a new year at this company and thought I had at least a 2-year contract. Within the week of my sudden departure one of my friendly co-workers read the signs and booty scooted too! She got the upper hand jump and with her mad skills got employed swiftlyhat and elsewhere. Sure, you may have a primary basket, but don’t put all of your eggs there. Build up other baskets, safety nets, revenue streams. I see with folks that people feel committed to remaining in something because it is familiar, they have built a team camaraderie, they are earning comfortably. But few companies are loyal these days to anything but their bottom line. They no longer even pretend to care about you. Ps, you were laid off yesterday, pack your shit up.

Why the tendency to keep all our eggs into one basket? If you really love the team you work with, you can always invite them into your new gig. The band can get back together again. If it doesn’t, then a higher purpose is being served so don’t worry about it. Keep yourself focused on what truly matters for your plan. Don’t be afraid to go off grid, off-roading. The worst that can happen is you will learn what works, what doesn’t and something about yourself you didn’t know before.

Nix DEBT and leave your stones behind. We all have bills but I want to caution about cash flow because not living your financial life in balance can mean an ethics slip or just flat working someplace you really would rather not just to pay the man. A friend going through a rough time a couple of years ago was really struggling with big decisions during a divorce. She was taking a very high road. I admired the path she was attempting, the elevation was very high so I applauded this, however, I myself would have definitely been throwing down some boulders along that high path of hers and stated as much. Well, I am very good sometimes at telling people what to do, not that they ever listen, but I do try. And sometimes I should simply shut up. My friend was stressed. She needed to vent not be told what to do, she was a full on adult capable of making her own smart decisions. I suddenly had the right thing to say to her and I have kept this question alive ever since because it applies to so much that we ever go through. When contemplating decisions, ask yourself ‘If I do that, will it bring me ultimately closer or farther away from peace?’ We can get edgy and jumpy and just want to think about right now, this moment, that shiny car or cute kitten but this question is a keeper. It keeps me focused on what truly matters and it will help you too. As we create ripples with every action we take, isn’t a focus on what brings us the greatest ultimate peace a great way to look outside ourselves and any immediate agenda into selflessness, into deeper matters?

What’s your slogan? Whether you work for yourself or a company, you are also a brand. How you engage with others every day helps create that brand, the brand of YOU! At Sprint I worked with a great manager, Scott Willis, who was responsible for giving me the opportunity to be an IPM. His slogan was ‘Where there’s a Willis, there’s a way.’ He lived up to that slogan. I want to make money but I never want that to become the main driver for why I do this work. I also want to spark others to question their motivations behind doing what they do as well so I created a slogan last year: If what you do for a living pollutes the earth, harms animals or people, then it’s not worth the effort or any amount of paper.’ This is on the signature line of all my emails. It helps me focus on how I can take my knowledge and apply that in the best service of my clients. It helps me to remain honest with my intentions and ever be humble I am able to do this work. As I build the brand, my brand, PureTemple, dedicated to learning and sharing ways to save our planet and detox our daily lives. I hold my goals in focus, progressively pursuing enlightened living. As you hone and manage your personal slogan, know that nothing is ever static. All of us are changing, evolving. Who you are today is not who you were yesterday. We learn from yesterday simply to inform a better future. Be blessed. ♥

The Quiet Worker – Getting Recognition For Your Zen


The quiet worker – My next article is going to be about raising awareness about what you bring to the table. Because I typically work quietly, I have seen over the years that what I actually have contributed has gone completely unnoticed. Ages ago, when asking for a better raise, my manager, who I thought knew me well, knew my value, had not one clue. She gave me a smile and a pat me on the knee and explained that once I had a few escalations successfully dealt with under my belt, and become more seasoned, (I had been there 7+ years) that she’d give me that raise then. At the time I supported large accounts like Huges Aircraft and Taco Bell. And somehow she thought there was never discord? Ha! Of course there was. So I smiled and patted her knee as I explained to her that dear lord YES, there have been numerous escalations, several upsets a week in fact. The difference is that I know how to handle my people. You see, when I do my job well, it means nobody above me ever has to lift a finger which reduces the costs of doing the business.’ BOOM! 
There need not be histrionics that upset your co-workers (Sure, let me cancel MY lunch plans to help YOU do Your Job) or some other less than professional missive that insults your coworker and just makes everybody feel negative but definitely raise some noise. And always remember in the process, blowing out someone else’s candle won’t make yours burn any brighter.

Trolls: Are You a Troll?

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Trolls. They’re everyplace. And while the term was coined from internet and social media posts, you’ll find trolls in your general daily life, from standing in line at the supermarket to the office cubicle nearest you. And on some days….yes, you could be the troll.  Blowing out someone else’s candle won’t make yours glow any brighter. What’s your motivation today?  I try hard to ask myself this whenever I feel less than balanced.  I try to breath and ask myself what I am trying to accomplish here as I type or speak.  On the Vegan 101 Page (great page btw) I encountered a troll. It’s the holidays and bound to happen. While some folks are pleased with all the happenings of 2018, some aren’t. And rather than be an adult the unhappy, the less than settled,  make the choice to share their turmoil and create drama and confusion.
Someone posted about it being ‘time to detox.’ What’s the best juicer asked someone else and I posted my article on Juicers. This turned into idiocy from one individual who essentially told me I should be ashamed for selling my quackery.  But while I DO market organic superfoods and Skincare, this post was not mine and was not anything I was selling.  I was singled out somehow for commenting on the post.  The individual had posted with a picture of green juices simply stating it was time to cleanse.  Not sure if they were selling these juices or simply stating they were getting ready to juice themselves!  So I took my leave after commenting that daily detoxing is very important.

In my corporate job, at my signature line, I asked ‘Is it kind? Is it helpful? Is it necessary? Faced daily with long hours, high heated emotions and hundreds of emails, I thought posing these questions helped temper everyone in stressful situations and mitigate unnecessary actions thus saving time and making work smoother. It was a reminder of what really matters at the end of the day.
As we move into the new year how can we maintain focus on what really matters? Can we be mindful of times we all look for ways we ignite a fire when water is needed, stomp out someone’s fire when heat is needed, or otherwise produce chaos when we could be adding unity and check our motivation for doing this? Are we feeling insecure, alone, jealous or just enjoying schadenfreude?
As an activist, I sign hundreds of petitions annually, injustices range from the Asian cat and dog meat trade to saving the whales, our oceans, eradicating the factory farm cruelties and sharing the important knowledge about what is really going on.  And there is always someone that jumps on a dog and cat meat post demanding human rights or what about dairy cruelty and is it alright to save the Asian cats and dogs but not pigs and cows.  These folks are trolls.  They jump onto a topic, snuff out the candle of the posters original intent, muck things up, accuse the poster of eating animals, call into question the organization itself (are they a real organization or a sham) then leave feeling vindicated, as if they somehow really caused some good here.   
We’re human, we stumble. But who has the time for ongoing toxicity? Where’s the joy in creating slander and cruelty? Only the imbalanced feels joy causing discord. And you cannot reason with imbalance. Let it go. As we move into the new year, look at your relationships, even those in your FB friend groups and ask yourself if they belong in your life? Do you feel supported, uplifted by most of what they say or judged and deflated? In short is what they say kind, helpful or necessary?
There’s always going to be the troll that wants to roll around and cover the facts with mud-uneducated to the truth of things, unwilling to learn with an egoist view of already knowing all. These are the folks who talk over you, don’t read what you’ve actually said and think you’re the one full of bull hockey. 
When you already know everything learning ceases. These folks just want to get you muddy, they aren’t there to be helpful and they aren’t there to be educated. They are not there to be helped or healed. Let it go. The teacher will arrive when the student is ready.
Let go of those who waste your time and mood and seek out those who uplift. You teach others how you wish to be treated by what you allow. Let go of what no longer serves your highest good and embrace positive change. Life is short. Trolls need not apply. Happy New Year!🎈

Here For The Beer?

Friends and family are so important, provided these relationships are healthy ones. These relationships help us feel bolstered, supported, less alone and enrich our lives in so many ways.   As people couple up, they tend to spend far less time with friends.  Add kids into the mix and you can feel even more estranged.  While coupling and having life sort of take over and back-seat your friends is part of the nature of things, it is also something we must be mindful of by working to carve out time for our near and dear.  Maintaining friendships and healthy relationships helps our self-esteem and keeps us balanced too.  Whether that’s a monthly friend lunch or beers after work or what have you, it is important to maintain your healthy friendships.  Healthy friendships are a necessity.  But what about codependent and abusive relationships?  They can be subtle like a light breeze through a doorway or a full-on hurricane. We all need a shoulder from time to time or a shared belly laugh.  We are driven to socialize and feel communion.  But co-dependent abusive relationships are not worth time or effort. The best way to spot them is by asking yourself how you feel after an exchange with the individual. Are they so wrapped up in themselves they forget plans with you or never bother to ask how you are doing because it’s all about them?

My mother came from an abusive background and it turns out we had a very codependent relationship.  And this book by Melody Beattie, Codependent No More, set me free of that.  It also ended a codependent relationship I was in with a man that exactly mirrored how my mother treated me.  For the very first time, I could see how I had played the victim and been manipulated and I could read it in 5 minutes in somebody else.  Healthy relationships always give and take and the relationships are not about getting something from you but looking out for your best interests.  Do you look out for your own best interests?

Some folks in your life, no matter how superficial or how deeply entrenched they appear to be, are just there for the beer.  And Facebook has made this far worse.  Yes, FB is great for those out of town friends and ex-colleagues to catch up with that you otherwise wouldn’t or only do so very sporadically, but FB has also taken place of actually seeing people!  If you have a car and live in the same city, you should connect physically periodically and talk live, do lunch, have a glass of wine together and catch up, have real conversations that you really cannot have on FB because on Facebook, it seems that most people get on there to hear happiness and flowers. There is only a very short attention span for any real dramas.  Most aren’t on there for serious issues and private messaging is cumbersome and wordy at best. The same thing applies to Facebook that applies with emails.  Much can be lost in the translation.  The bottom line is that anyone that lives in your city that’s also on FB should be able to see you a few times a year, and physically visit or it really isn’t much of a real friendship, is it because much of FB is fake.  Fake news!  It’s called gas and a car key if the friendship really means anything at all. With that, I want to talk about self-sabotage.

Most of us create some kind of self-sabotage from time to time, whether it’s losing it with a coworker, deliberately stretching your personal finances too tightly, dating a loser or listening too intently to the wrong people. The GREAT news is that each day provides us with abundance and opportunities to co-create change. As we end this year, think about ways of being that no longer serve your highest good. Are you trusting people that always let you down? Working at a job that perhaps pays well but drains your soul? Living someplace that depresses you rather than uplifts? Keeping what’s in your best interest at arm’s length rather than embracing joy? Stuck in a rut? Feeling conflicted? My neighbor Dennis commented that he often feels misled because he assumes the way he cares for others means he gets that level of care back and that’s not always so. I’m generally an open book but one of my adult tastes of such was when I had two family members with an emotional breakdown and nobody to talk to. I reached out and was simply told ‘We don’t do well with mental illness topics.’ That couple immediately went to the balcony of our lives rather than a seat in the front row where I had thought they were well placed. I was wrong. Guard your heart and test friendships mettle. You can do this while still being open and compassionate but also judicious. Coupled with self-sabotage comes the blinders we also wear. What patterns happen for you? Are all your friendships on FB or do you have real ones?  Are those relationships truly supporting or downers? Do you find yourself always giving, such as supporting a friends shop by buying stuff but not getting any ROI?  Do you have a habit of overcommitting, promising and not delivering or is someone in your life doing this to you?  Do you keep forgetting plans or have someone who consistently forgets you?
I was laid off and had sold my car so that I would not have a car payment while being unemployed.  A friend who is well off offered to give me a good working vehicle he wasn’t using and, as he put it, didn’t want to bother taking it to Carmax to sell.  He said ‘It’s yours’ and that he would bring it by that week.  I followed up with him about the car, 4 times asking if he was serious and each time he said yes.  I am still not over the fact that on FB he told everyone he had given me a car yet the reality is I am still on foot.   I cannot tell you why anyone would promise something and not deliver but I can assure you that this behavior is absolutely toxic.  I didn’t ask him for anything, he just knew my situation and made a great and grand gesture.  I actually cried tears of joy.  I had bought cars for other people and never once have I had someone buy me a car in my 58 years.  How karmically sweet to finally be gifted in this manner!  And then it never materialized. 

Surround yourself with people who mean what they say and follow through on promises.  Honor the good people in your life by following suit.  Don’t wait for the car to show up!  Or any other empty promise! Move on!  And please respect yourself enough to never make empty offerings and end relations with those in your life who do.  When you find yourself in repeated codependent relationships, know that while you can absolutely change this by removing those blinders, it also requires some diligence, particularly in the beginning as you are learning about the old patterns, how to spot and stop them while learning new and healthy ways of being.  So in addition to the book above, I also highly recommend this daily meditation which has always seemed perfect for the day, whatever page I open it to.  Melody Beattie The Language Of Letting Go


Some people are just here for the beer.  They are there because something better has not yet come up so they are hanging out with you temporarily.  They may like your beer and may enjoy your company when it suits them but they are not filled with compassion and loyalty towards you personally when help and friendship is really needed.   

Do the same stories keep coming up in your life? If so, and you don’t like the story, change it! Where you see repeated abusive relationships or financial constraints or any other negatory pattern, there’s a spot to start working on. Honor yourself by acknowledging the needed nudge. We all have our personal pet bitches and gripes and crap that happens. As long as you’re seeking ways to minimize drama in your life ( and also drama for those around you) and working to create goodness, you’re on the right path. When you begin to see things frazzle and fray, it’s time to pour a cup of tea and reassess. This life is short. This year nearly a wrap. Live your best life in 2019.

Mental Imbalance & Lateral Micromanagers, Know-It-Alls, Suck-Ups Who Harsh Your Mellow At Work



Most of us who work at something do so because we need the employment.  Whether you’re busy at something you view as temporary, longer term or fully engaged in what you feel is your life’s purpose, you will occasionally find yourself dumbstruck by difficult people. My old co-worker Kristin Smith used to say ‘They make it harder than it needs to be.’  Whatever you’re sorting through, below is great info and fab reads that will help you identify these challenging types and what you can do to deal with them by allying, accommodating, escaping, confronting or perhaps eliminating them.

I have been in the workforce since I was 12 years old, picking strawberries and later shearing trees for Christmas, in the Pacific Northwest. My first actual job, as opposed to temporary seasonal work, was Bob’s Big Burgers where I wasn’t fast enough on the line and politely let go.  I worked at Moto Photo 3 times (back when folks with cameras needed film developed), Richland College Planetarium 3 times performing laser light shows (great gig!) and finally Sprint 3 times where I had planned to retire but was part of a massive lay off instead. Interspersed with Sprint, I worked as a radio announcer with a smattering of acting & photography work.  Everybody would always hire me back when asked which made me feel I was a fairly adept employee to have around.  At 58 things are different than they were in my 20’s and 30’s out job seeking.  But the mentally instable folks are still there and may sit in a cubicle near you.

My work philosophy has always been to do my best, have some fun, be easy going as possible and in general, endeavor to get along even with people I might not otherwise have ever had the opportunity to associate with. Being thrust into different walks of life and people is a great educational experience.  It is great to mix with one’s own, but also to diversify, just as you would any of your other assets.

It has always puzzled me when co-workers preferred to stir the pot, rather than try and get along.  Each of us has our own crosses to bear and we don’t really know what all is going on inside an individual so erring on the side of compassion, is the best option.  Being of diverse backgrounds, personalities and predilections IS what makes all this great!  The problems arise when we have imbalanced personalities, insecurities, judgments, ego and stress thrown in the mixture as well as folks who plainly should be on meds.

I have learned exactly 3 things that are a job requirement with any company you work at. 1) Perform your job well. Fix what you break.  Own your failures as well as your successes here. 2)  Absorb and honor the culture, and just like people, every corporation is different.  Learn it and abide.  The dude abides.  3) Get along well with everybody else. Those you cannot tolerate, keep as far away from as possible without it looking obvious and conduct all business briefly as feasible and politely.   Humor goes a very long way to making all of this happen.  However well you do your work, you are replaceable. If you are tenured at some place, please enjoy that feeling because as soon as you start somewhere else, you will feel a culture shift that, unless you’ve been job hopping for years, will come as quite a shock.  I don’t understand this but sometimes when new folks come on board, the people who have been there a while, rather than welcome you with open arms, want to size you up and judge and get sometimes intensely combative and defensive, as if you are there to take something away from them.  At least this is what I experienced and I am still scratching my head over it.

Agendas – What is your agenda for working where you do?  What motivates you daily?  For me, I have always come to work with only one agenda, to do the work well. After being fired at Bob’s Big Burgers, I never wanted to ever be fired again so I aim to work well with others and do my job.  I have never wanted the spotlight, to derail someone’s career, to one-up anybody or cause needless harm and chaos.  I have never felt the need to scream insults at someone or single anybody out and make them look bad to pump myself up.  I have not once not ever, called someone up in the middle of their work day to shout threats at them as happened to me in my last corporate job. I am full of flaws so I tend toward helping people rather than be the stone that weighs them down or in any way be the reason they don’t want to come to work.  In short, my paycheck has always been based in part on my being a team player and I just instinctively knew that. 

In my 4 decades of working, I have encountered some very challenging people.  From sexual harassment to jealousies, and pettiness, a few very angry people and much ego.   Many have been clients where I had to be exemplary in handling them while maintaining composure.  For the last 20 years, I was a project manager over implementations (IPM) over voice and data networks for Strategic and Enterprise accounts.   As much as I loved my role, it was mostly very imbalanced in the hours worked which brought out many personality quirks not to mention health issues.   My superpower was taking an upset client and turning that relationship around.  I usually got the worst cases to turn around and accomplished this, to the point of Sprint winning Vendor of the Year from Overhead Door, as just one example. While many people shy away from angry customers, the reality is that most upset folks just want a partner in the business that will hear and understand them and what they want, speak the truth so they aren’t blindsided, while also putting all efforts into meeting all the goals if at all possible.  The 12+ hour days took its toll on my health.  I manage an ongoing swallowing disorder (achalasia) due to all these years full of long hours and stress.  When I took early retirement there, my goal was to put calm and my health as a priority and not work more than an 8 hour day.  8 is enough already. Corporations get greedy.

Wherever you go, there will be the slackers and the over-achievers and those that do their job well, but never push the boundaries to go over and above. You are never going to change that or them.  You can only control yourself. 

Through networking, I ended up with several job offers through folks who knew me and my tenacity.  One seemed perfect, similar pay to what I made prior, learning something new and upcoming (apps) and an 8 hour day.  I called it ‘Dream Job’.   I managed APIs getting tested and deployed, and was hired as a contractor along with 2 other newbies who integrated into an existing team. 
3 months later, 3 additional folks were hired and us new folks were asked to train them while we were all still learning.  This was a HUGE corporation yet there were no M&Ps, no training documents, only a Client Handbook that, while filled with great info, was absolutely NOT a training tool. I did what I have always done in new work situations;  I created a cheat sheet on all the steps to do my work and added to it as I learned more.  I created this cheat sheet so I would not miss a step. I liked this job and intended on keeping it.  The 2 folks training us in between their work, took offense that I would create a cheatsheet and refused to review it for accuracy.   When we new folks began training the other 3 that had just walked in the door, with no corporate training tool to use, I was asked to share my cheatsheet.  This turned into an ego blast where, rather than being happy the new folks were trained rapidly, in a matter of days by using this cheat sheet as a training tool, instead I got screamed at for several minutes in a phone call that was so unprofessional and crazy, threatening my job, calling me insubordinate and shutting my every syllable down.  I decided the best course while I had my ass handed to me, was to just go quiet.  Let it happen, let them scream, think about what I will do next for employment. For a minute I contemplated putting that individual on speaker. In hindsight, this is exactly what I should have done. Why allow someone to be that ugly and get their say in privacy?  Why on earth did I extend courtesy in the face of all that hateful spew?   Nobody ever in my life had spoken to me like this.  Nobody ever again will!  I sat in stunned silence.  Was making six figures really worth all this drama? I had anticipated an adult, professional work environment, not bullies on the playground.   I went home that day a puddle. My husband asked if I wanted a drink when he saw me walk through the door.  I couldn’t even speak. I nodded ‘No’ and went straight to the atrium, closed the door, curled up in a fetal ball and cried for hours.  When I walked into the living room much later, I quietly explained what had happened.  He asked me not to turn in my notice, it was great money and to see what could be worked out.  In all my years at work, I had never encountered such a rough experience.  And while this individual eventually calmed down and had the cajones to take me into a breakout room and discuss it, I realized that this person, who was the one training me, was someone I could not reliably go to for any kind of help.  Their mood could go from zero to hellcat in 3 seconds.  I just didn’t have it in me to deal.  I needed calm.  And this perhaps wasn’t the worst of it.

As we newbies began getting some work, one of the individuals began clashing with everyone else.  We’ll call him Howse.  Howse wanted to spend an exorbitant amount of time deliberating on every little detail, as if he were checking his own logic but the team gradually realized it was his way of trying to coach us, train us on what he somehow assumed he knew more and we needed training on. And yes, even folks who had been there a decade, he was trying to ‘coach’. Classic micromanager, Howse spent every morning of an entire week standing in my cube demanding status as soon as I walked in the door for an API he should have been going to his own resources for.  He created daily team reports and went through all of our work with a fine tooth comb.  He would keep me late (and I did not get paid overtime) to show me ‘my report’ he created.  He would go through each of my projects, their APIs and status and I had no idea why on earth he would keep me after work to go over my work as a peer that I of course already was well aware of since they were my projects.  Then he proceeded to tell us, and the boss or our client, what we did wrong whenever he caught something.  Be it a system glitch, a ticket really not in our shop to write or a simple mistake.  There was a team intervention where, after he reported one of us, he was pulled into a breakout room where team-mates tried to get him to understand why that was wrong to do. He insisted they ‘Needed to know she made an error.’  Ironically, Howse made the same error first, but of course, management didn’t hear about that.  He would jump into business that wasn’t his, join calls he was not invited to, cover up his own errors or justify them and create havoc and upset and distrust in the team.  Always looking to argue a point and demanding things must be done his way, I believe he is the reason I was laid off and amazingly, he was retained. The last thing I tried to help him with was to warn him from tenaciously demanding documentation from tenured folks.  My mistake entirely.  I should have let him go on ahead!  Instead I was trying to have compassion for the root of his behavior issues and help him.  His wife was stayed at home with the kids and he’d lost his last job over this behaviour.  Part of not going through things again is learning the signs of mental imbalance so to  avoid getting sucked into it.  It is never your role to fix a broken employee.  Sometimes trying to help the mentally unstable comes back to bite you.

Above all else, always remain calm.  Both with this phone call and when Howse was yelling at me in my cubicle, just coming completely unglued because I simply asked him to step out of my cubicle and allow me to get my work done my own way, I refused to get angry or shout back.  My personal MO has been to always remain kind.  In the end of it, the hothead screaming insults at you is going to look like the person they are if you remain quiet, calm and polite.  When you jump into the fray, it then becomes ‘he said, she said’ and the truth of it muddies.

If your corporation keeps the asshat, well, they deserve it!  Move onward and upward.  Don’t bother looking back and bemoaning fate.  But, I do encourage you to see what part you took in it.  You may not have known the morale or ethos going into the job but now that you have, think about what you did or did not do or say and make your own behavioral changes.  For me, my change is to not be as patient with mentally imbalanced people.  It can encourage their abuse and nobody deserves to be abused at work. Working for a living, whatever it is, is challenge enough.  None of us needs to put up with rudeness and ego.   There are ways to end a call, stop a person from jumping you in your cubicle every morning and to do this in a polite but firm way. And when that doesn’t work, get up and walk away.

Life is too short for unnecessary conflict.  One of the things I learned when my mother got dementia was that stress and shock can bring it on.  This can be a bad accident, such as breaking a hip, losing a loved one, a bad car accident or anything that seriously jolts you.  They don’t know why but I think I do.  I think the life most of us live is vastly removed from the life most of us were designed to live.  The pace is fast, the work hours long and judging by what I see, the respect and compassion has dwindled.  No work is worth affecting your mental or physical soundness because at the end of it, what you have left is you.  You have to be in shape to take on whatever comes next.  I have watched a lot of worker bees who are spent, not in great physical shape or emotional condition trying to find work.  Always put yourself first.  Because the corporation you work for will take what it can, the responsibility rests upon you to call it when it’s time to stop.  

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Organic Laundry Soap Fish & Ocean Water Safe

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One of the worst polluters on the home front is doing laundry.  In your typical detergent, there are a plethora of chemicals, from optic whiteners to bleach, carcinogens and hormone disrupters, sulfates, parabens, Butyl Esthers, Phosphates, Zeolites, artificial colors, and fillers.  Not only do these chemicals affect our drinking water, create algae blooms which kill off fish but also affect you and your children’s health as they leach into your body through skin contact and breathing in the chemical fragrances.
As an ecopreneur, I’m a brand partner for 2 laundry liquids;
Platypus Laundry Liquid featured photo at the top of the page and Essante Organics Unscented Laundry Liquid.  I also want to talk about the Sanitizer Spray which uses stabilized oxygen!
Links to shop or do a deeper dive are in above in the product names.
Platypus Laundry Liquid – Platypus is made using organic soap nuts on my companies farm coop.  It is 100% biodegradable, even the packaging employs 85% less plastic.  While we wait for a non-scented version, this one has a very pleasant eucalyptus essential oil added which is not overpowering but makes the washer and the clothes have a nice fresh aroma.  This is super concentrated, you only need 2 tablespoons.  1 liter does 40 loads and there is a price break when you buy 3 or more.  The soap comes out looking like dark honey or tea but don’t be alarmed, it will not stain your clothes.  Free of all the usual bad chemicals and completely organic, 5% of all sales is gifted to establishing community-owned Organic Farm Share projects.  Market studies applause this product for being 23% better at cleaning clothes.
Essante Organics Unscented Laundry Liquid – Essante is in a plastic container which is recyclable. Very concentrated, only 2 tiny capfuls are needed so 16 oz will last you through 32 loads with typical soil levels. Non-scented and works well while being safe for our home, our clothes, and fish.  This product uses soy and coconut cleansing agents and is also suggested for furniture fabrics, carpets and pet areas.

Sanitizer Spray – The Essante Sanitizer Spray goes from laundry room to locker room, to countertops of your kitchen and even your makeup bag.  Non-scented, it harnesses the power of stabilized oxygen and kills 99%-100% of bacteria, fungi, germs, pathogens and viruses.  Great for cleaning and disinfecting cuts, abrasions, acne. I have one client who uses the spray, which comes in a purse/travel size, to cure her Tinea Versicolor.  She stated nothing but a very expensive prescription knocked it out prior!  I personally use it daily as our cats won’t stay off the countertops and it provides me great peace of mind that our counters are sanitary.

Changing your laundry soap is one easy way to detox your home, the air that you breathe,  and your clothing while making a huge impact on the environment and mother earth. ♥

The Detox Myth

As we do a mindful practice, we help to ring out and cleanse our organs…to detox.

At the bottom of this article is a great informative little video. Check it out.  

I have had some fairly interesting conversations with regards to detoxing.  I absolutely mean no offense by this statement, however, I have found that sometimes the higher education in the field of Western Medicine a person has, the more they have to hurdle over to get to truth.  Those coming from a holistic, Asian, Ayurvedic, Homeopathic or an Energy worker mindset are typically on my same page.  The body is an exceptional and amazing machine.  I am always thankful for how long my body has carried me so far, for its strength, stamina and balance.  The body is always in a state of protecting us against illness, killing off rogue cancer cells, processing our meals and running those nutrients where they are needed and detoxifying the system.  I have been adamantly told that the body needs no help detoxing, it does so naturally.  These people are not clued into the abundance of chemicals in our world, or the fact each of us comes into this world with what is known as a body burden that only increases as we live unless we are very mindful.

People have asked me ‘Is this or that FDA approved’ as if the government cared one jot about them.  The Toxic Substances Control Act (TSCA) is NOT in place to protect you and me, it is in place to protect big business.  In fact, when this organization organized, it did so grandfather in 62,000 chemicals never testing any of them let alone testing how they operate together, how they react with each other, as they do in the wider world. 
We continue being told, as family members get cancer, that the industrial pollution, the agent orange that took my brother off this plane of existence, the chemicals in the skincare that caused cancer in my mother, the glyphosate in the cornfield that killed a camera operator filming Indian Runner in a matter of days and the spot treatment of RoundUp in your garden are all perfectly safe.  Whatever cool-aide they’re drinking, this is a lie.

The issue is that while yes, the body does indeed work to cleanse itself, it was never designed to handle this level of an onslaught.  When our body doesn’t know what to do with a substance or cannot process it right now, it stores that toxin in our fat cells to deal with later.  This is why people feel like they may have the flu, get headaches, feel overall achy when they go on a cleanse.  The body uses any time we are fasting, resting or taking in high nutrition and minerals to help rid itself of toxic substances such as heavy metals, plastics, nicotine. Your Body is Detoxing between 11Pm and 11am – This is the highest point the body is cleansing so provide water with lemon and cayenne pepper if you like. Parsley, Cilantro, Algaes, Chlorella, AFA algae, infrared sauna are great ways to assist in the cleansing processes. 3 weeks of detoxing can flush out 60% of our toxins and create a 1lb of weight per day loss.

The average person puts on 200 chemicals by 9am just in their morning routine.  Cleansing our body of chemicals in this day and age, requires a daily mindful approach that involves eating organically, eating as close to an 80% raw diet as possible, low or no cooking as anything cooked above 118 loses its vitamins and enzymes, reducing or preferably eliminating meat and dairy where toxins are stored in the animals fat, purifying all water, the air and buying toxin-free skincare, body care, supplements, laundry detergents and other home care products. 

95% of all supplements on the market are bad.  Talc is often added as a filler and is carcinogenic. They use lubricants to get the pills through the machines, flavoring, coloring agents which can fuel viruses, cause indigestion, contain toxins. Coating materials are beetle wings and petrochemicals.
At lunch with a client, they shared their beloved rose-scented facial spray turned out to have antifreeze in it.  This is a high-end brand!  I took my all organic Rose Hydrating spray out of my handbag and she enjoyed the refreshment and ordered a bottle. My neighbor has been using Mitchum deodorant when he suddenly realized it has aluminum in it. We were having tea this afternoon and I said, yes, that has been linked to neurological disorders such as Alzheimer’s.  He purchased a deodorant I sell right on the spot.  
Laundry soap is one area that is our most earth polluting on the home front.  I sell one that is 23% better than most soaps on the market, comes in an eco-friendly container and is price comparable, grown on the farm of the company I am Brand Partner for and is made entirely in-house.  
If you are interested in taking a look at the products I sell, check out the shop buttons at the top of my webpage.

As an ecopreneur, I help get this message out there along with products that really help mitigate the pollution in our bodies.  I coach on juicing, growing sprouts and on supplements and superfoods to help the body in minimizing its burden.  I promote potent and powerful skincare that is highly effective while being clean enough to eat.  If you are sitting there eating a fast food burger and feeling like you’re on overwhelm, take heart.  Do one thing at a time.  Nothing must be done in a day, but by doing something, by cleaning up your skincare and diet and gradually incorporating clean and green products you minimize the cruelty in animal testing, help save the planet and reduce pesticide use all while feeling far better.  

On a last note, folks will tell me they cannot afford to spend more on supplements or going organic with their food etc.  I am always perplexed at this because we have one body and one planet.  The answer is obvious.  I want to live an abundant and resilient life and my deepest desire is that you do also.  Life is too short to short change yourself.  I have a friend, obese, funny and loves McRibs.  I beg him to just cut down on the junk but he says he is still alive.  I say yeah, but for how long and what’s the quality really like?  I’m almost 60, look 40, I am not on any prescriptions, fully ambulatory and have not been to a doctor for anything in over 20 years.  To me, this is what normal is, it is not taking something for blood pressure, another thing for arthritis, another drug to manage age onset diabetes, something else for leaky gut etc.  Folks we have far more control over this stuff than we sometimes either realize or want to own. From the lady who spilled coffee in her lap at a McDonalds to folks blaming their dog rather than their own training methods, we have become a society that just wants to pass that buck.   I am asking that you own the responsibility you have of managing your health.  Food is fuel. Toxins are deadly.  It absolutely is not your doctors’ job to make you healthy, it is your job.  Your doctor should be a last resort.  To live a resilient life, you simply must make a daily promise to do something kind to yourself and put a focus on things, from yoga to food, that are truly nourishing to you and do those things.  Now, enjoy this video and if interested in taking a deeper dive, below that is a link to a free syllabus with Hippocrates Health Institute where I am an affiliate and took my training. ♥


https://youtu.be/BQGa9qvQZgg

https://op.hippocratesinst.org/moreinfo/static/34  

Spiritual Work

This is my master bath.  The contractor gutted, elevated the ceiling and did new sheetrock, ran electrical etc.  The view from my zen soak tub shows me a gappy unfinished wall, gaps around the medicine cabinet, a crooked light fixture where the round hole which he created for a square base is mostly covered by a cheap plastic circle. The light fixture moves. Not in the photo are unfinished walls, one that curves and child-like tiling.  This passes as quality work at Wilder & Wilder construction.

The photo absolutely will NOT load and I also blame this on the car manufacturer.  They must be working some serious mojo so that my photos won’t post. 😉   But I bought an LS600HL and the dashboard leather peeled up so high it blocked vision out the front windshield. Lexus refused to resolve.  I finally just sold off the car for pennies on the dollar. I believe hell will freeze before I cease talking about my bad Lexsucks.  There were other issues too with the vehicle, it was just aging far too fast for what should have been a quality built machine with a 6 figure sticker price.  Not 50k miles in, the water pump failed, as did the brakes and suspension among other things.  This is my experience and I have read a few other sad Lexus stories too and while your Lexus may or may not be behaving itself, I come away forever off the brand due to how my situation was handled.  It seemed nobody cared to change the outcome and I felt I was driving the most beautiful POS ever created that was a driving time bomb of when I might be left stranded and owing thousands to fix again.

Regardless of your personal beliefs, we are spiritual beings who bring intention and spirit behind that into everything we do, all that we touch and also with what we say.  None of us are perfect so if this sounds scary, don’t worry.  This life is just a practice.  But our practice is in perfection, in giving and doing our best in the service of others with whatever it is that we do or create, even if what we do now is only temporary, you’re going on holiday or retiring next week or starting something new and more in line with your goals etc.

This is the view I see every day I soak in my tub to relax.  Namaste MF comes to mind.  And I have not found anybody that wants to finish this wall for me.  I have thought a lot about work and the spirituality of doing great work, of striving to create happiness with clients, of making it look easy in front of the customer which used to be my personal motto at Sprint as an Implementation Project Manager.  Sure, you are not going to please everybody.  Some folks come with their own tightly packed bag of luggage that you are never going to be enabled to sort through or resolve.  All we can ever do is try.  Try hard.  Looking at this wall I ask you what lasting impression did you leave your last customer with?  Or perhaps it was the checkout person or mailman.  We all brand ourselves by how we typically think, feel and act and by our
personal code of ethics.  Are you a half-finished and poorly done wall? Are you advertising yourself as a flagship when your output speaks otherwise? If so, there’s time and need to go and do better.

We like to think in terms of hierarchy, of rank in importance, such as BMW might rank higher than Subaru or CEO higher than Project Manager.  The reality is that the heart is not one iota more important than the foot, the lung no more important than the lymphatic system, the intestines no less important than the brain.  I found it absolutely fascinating to learn the immune system is a completely separate entity that dwells within our bodies.  We are all made up of bacteria and hopefully more good flora than bad (check your diet.)  But all of the body, while bits, parts and pieces, all work harmoniously together for the good of all the entire organism called human, fish, dog etc or problems ensue.

When we observe the body, we understand that all the lifeforms, all the people, the other animals, the plants, all these bits, parts, and pieces, make up the wonderful and diverse and dependent world we live in with nothing being really more important than another.

Imagine nobody wanted the janitor job.  Nobody took out the trash or recycle? How important would that job suddenly feel after a couple of weeks missed trash pickup? Or a month?  Many of us do something we are not 100% sold on.  This may be a stepping stone or foot inside a doorway, the only thing you felt you qualified for or just a temporary gig to earn some pay.  Whatever it is to you, your hand is bringing spirit into the practice.  Whether it is the practice of customer service, medicine, the practice of implementing APIs or circuits, the practice of acupuncture, you are adding something divine when it is done right.  Whenever you are simply going through the motions or filled with anything less than thankfulness and a desire to do your best in the role you are filling, you are adulterating your power and providing a product whose end results will be less than stellar.  And no matter what you do, however trivial you may think it is, somebody cares a whole heck of a lot about the end result.

Namaste A Yoga Meditation

When I first took up yoga nearly 20 years ago, I was transfixed upon the meaning behind a word I had never heard prior; Namaste.  We are all spiritual beings, filled with the anima, the soul and breath of life that all animals are filled up with.   In the scurry to get projects completed, the car serviced, the kids off to school, pets to the vet, the home cleaned, and figure out how to carve time out to work on our frayed nerves, work out, work in and work on ourselves this is a great word to meditate upon. 

The meaning behind the word Namaste is that the divine in me acknowledges, sees, the divine in you.  When I say Namaste, I am acknowledging your spiritually divine spark, your holiness.  And amid all this chaos, you do have this spark!  The Indian people I worked with used the word as a greeting and a departure. Hello sure pales in comparison. 

I love yoga, and there are many forms, for it’s balancing and healing of the entire system.  Regardless of where you plan to practice, I encourage you to get a Manduka yoga mat.  They are the best, thickest for the knees and joints, easy to clean and last forever.  And now they come in colours!

Types of yoga really run the gamut from Flow or power yoga where you get your heart rate up a bit and flow from one position to the next swiftly, to Iyengar and Anusara where the pace is slow and methodical with high importance placed upon the body structure, stacking the bones and keeping a watchful eye on alignment.  My first teachers were Baron Baptiste,  Iyengar and Vinyasa trained so form was taught.

At the Y, I have become more involved and aware of Iyengar.  At first I felt it was too slow but now I get it.  And the man’s story is fascinating, sickly as a child, he was sent to live with monks in hopes he would find healing.  I highly recommend reading his book, Light On Yoga which is considered the bible of yoga. Here you learn to perfect your form and allow for the healing this brings to your practice.  There is also rope yoga and I am thankful the YMCA offers this!  I have never had such release in my lower back.

Another fabulous book is Baron’s 40 days to Personal Revolution which has great mediation instructions, poses, and deep inspiring thoughts.

Yoga not only tonifies the body, tendons and internal organs but works on the mind.  In yoga, we call it monkey mind, where our thoughts are all over the place.  We learn calm, to live in the parasympathetic responses in our nervous system, the rest and digest.  In our fast-paced world, many of us just stay on a sympathetic nervous system response and wear our systems out.  Think Coronaries.  So we need more calm in our lives.  As we calm, we think clearer.  Yoga helps us grow in compassion not only for others but also for ourselves as we see from day to day our body may be different, balance, stretch or move differently.  I learned which was my stronger side through yoga as well as the myriad ways my life is imbalanced in the day to day life, such as what fingers I use to pull my pants up, or which is my pot scrubbing hand and which is my pot holding hand?  Switch things up, create even strength and balance within yourself.

Anger – One time at work, where we had outsourced to India, I was very frustrated as things were not going well at all.  These folks were put into place with very little learning on something very complicated and add to it the language barrier.  After the run around and feeling my blood boil, I ended my chat session with this exceedingly unhelpful person with ‘Namste’.  In the depth and bile of my anger over not getting something done which should have taken 1 afternoon before but now had required 35 days, I was just done talking.  I had to stop myself and breath.  It would do no good to spew hatred at the machine that put all this in place. Perhaps it wasn’t this individuals fault, who knows their personal story right?  So I just took a slow breath, let it all go and said Namaste.  I was heading my finger on the button to then end the chat session when a message came back to ‘hold on one moment more, I think I can fix this for you.’  And so it was done not in anger, not in pushing my agenda, but simply in letting it go as I acknowledged the holy, the seat of the divine in another very flawed individual as I am equally flawed too.  I ended up after this getting a whole lot of work done faster.  And I shared with my US team what Namaste means as I shared my personal story.  Unfairness, laying off the wrong person, car accidents, loan interest rates going up happen.  Life happens.  The point of it all is to acknowledge the divine in everything which surrounds you.  There you find peace and gain enlightenment.  Namaste.