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Overemployed? Been there! My story also with some help to minimize your load

Time to chill, even for a minute is so important to be quiet and get in touch with you and with your inner peace and calm, or, let’s be honest, even your inner crazy.  The world of chores, business, expectations, take us literally up and away from so many delighter opportunities if we let that happen.

I was laid off after 26 years at my telecom company where I was a high functioning Project Manager over Implementation of large Voice and Data networks for strategic companies.  I loved my work, I loved most of my customers, I loved putting out fires and calming nerves, getting everybody to play nice in the sandbox.  I loved making it fun, business should always have some fun in it.  I especially loved pulling rabbits out of hats and numerous times making the near impossible actually happen for my customer.  But I did not enjoy the long hours at all.  I only rarely had times where I could take a break.  And my health suffered after 2 straight years of working 16+ hour days, 7 days a week, including every holiday too.  Ironically, even being so very sick as I was, I had too much work to stop and take sick leave so I kept on working, but gained a full appreciation for cutting it way down wherever that was possible and focusing way more on me time.

While I (thankfully) did not have someone standing over me demanding those hours out of me, as some of us do, I was, nevertheless ‘overemployed’ as I have named it.

It is a very tricky place to be.  So here is what I see, the nut of it.  If you work for a large corporation, as I did, they will use you up, just keep squeezing that tube of paste until it all comes out.  Regardless of how your direct manager feels about you, he can only protect you so long.  Once you hit 50 your days are numbered. You need a back up plan.  But way ahead of this, you need to spend some time on a daily/weekly basis, just focusing on yourself and personal items and pleasures. Getting in touch with who you are and finding your passions is paramount.  Many lead you to new revenue streams which diversify those eggs that may all be sitting in one corporate employer basket.  We go around once and our life should be about life and living not working for the man, no matter how rewarding it may be.

I was exemplary at my job, had perhaps 4 sick days since 2000, was a team player, got along with everybody, my customers loved me and although we had a health plan, I personally had not ever used anything other than dental cleaning twice annually, a few pairs of glasses and a checkup every 8-10 years.  That’s it.  Cheap!  When my mother was diagnosed with cancer, I located a volunteer organization to shuttle her to most of her daily radiation appointments, thus maintaining my presence and my focus on work. When my brother was sick with Cancer I did a similar thing to remain focused on the workload.

My mother and brother are now dead and I was just laid off in February.  Nope, nothing is permanent, particularly our time with loved ones.

So what I am saying is that, no matter who you are, how young and vibrant you feel, how dedicated and loyal you are or how reasonably paid you are or how little you cost the company in healthcare etc, or how greatly motivated and stellar at working autonomously with little to no need for a manager to, well, manage you, your days are indeed numbered.  Most importantly, your time on earth is.  So why not stop, smell those flowers and get some me time in?

The issues is that so many of us find ourselves being paid for an 8 hour day but feel stuck doing way more because this has become an accepted expectation.  If a man beats his wife and his wife goes along with that, guess what?  That man now believes that beating his wife is accepted behaviour because that behaviour is being allowed when it should not be.  The beat down is still there, just in a different form.  Each one of us has our limits, our line in the sand.  I am asking that you find yours and then do what you can personally do to assure that line stops getting rubbed out.  Only you have the power to do this, to enforce your line.

Depending upon the company, I have seen folks mandated to work a set amount of non paid overtime hours.  I find even the idea of this expectation rude.  My husband works for such a company.  While they love him, and that’s all great, he is exceedingly over worked.  To my mind, we want to be productive at work, get the job done and well.  That stated, if we have a rare opportunity to cut out early one day out of the month then why the heck not do that?

For my personal situation, I had no help, I was knee deep in my clients kimchi, and was brilliantly stuck sideways doing the hours if I wanted to assure that what was on my plate didn’t blow up for my customer and, ultimately me.  To stop work would mean failure and nobody was going to ultimately realize the truth of it, that it was enough work for 3 people so 3 should have been hired.  No, rather, it would have become a black eye for me.

I know a lot of you are in this camp, on this mission, paddling this same boat. While we may rarely feel like it, in these moments, I am telling you right now that we are in control of our choices.  If enough of us scale our work back, we win more personal time in our day.  Frankly, if we are doing the job of 2 people, another person should be hired and that is a mismanagement issue not an underachieving employee one.  For each employee who routinely works a 12 or 16 hour day, that is the same as taking one full time job away from someone who needs work.

Work to life balance has been a buzzword for years.  But so much of what I see is just the words spoken with no real meat of intention behind them.  I see open door policies that really aren’t open at all, because they are not really open for change.  I once reported  (anonymous) an issue to our ethics hotline.  They were zero help, they told me to contact HR.  HR was zero help, they wanted me to discuss the concern with my director and offered to set a meeting up.  I was also advised that I should go back to my manager even though the concern wasn’t about me, not even about a member of my direct team and was not about anybody that rolled up under my new director.  It was about policy being flagrantly ignored that could lead to a lawsuit!  Two people that I knew of  had been recently denied their bereavement time.  My suggestion to HR,  was for the company to send out a refresher to all management on policies.  Don’t single anybody out, just mandate that all managers refresh themselves on the policies in place and then refresh their teams too.  Everybody on the same level playing field knowing what the rules are.  Those in violation of said rules would be educated and further transgressions minimized but this refresher would absolutely open a logical door up to single those folks out the next time they denied their staff bereavement or comp time etc.

Sometimes you are purely in a situation where, regardless of intentions, you are not going to fix what is broken.  You are, however, always in control of how you think, feel and act.  I will always look out for justice being done to people and animals but for those individuals, my advise was to brush up their resume’s and move on because nobody cared to listen.

If you feel stuck, just look for ways to create space in your day for you, even if it is just a ten minute break with a cup of tea and a book.  Scheduling times you check email and times you do other work really helps too.  We don’t have to be engaged in email all day long.   Pick and choose your battles, what must happen today and what could wait until tomorrow, so that you can locate some kind of stopping point for your day and finally rest.  Feed yourself healthy food, drink water, get up from your desk and move around every few hours. Deep leg thrombosis IS a thing and it can kill.

When all is said and done, you take yourself with you wherever you go, so it is vital that you and your health come first. Whatever company you work for, I can pretty much guarantee the corp is putting itself first.  Copy that and put yourself as priority #1!  If you have poor management, where things are broken and nobody cares to fix that, don’t stress over it.  Bring it up the once.  If you don’t gain an ear take that as your clue to move on. Try not to take it personally if you get no place with some advise.  Be thankful for the paycheck and do your best but get your resume updated and out the door as you continue to still work there.  Try hard not to put yourself in a situation where you may end up bitter.  If you are going to be bitter at working 12+ hour days, then just don’t do it.  Leave instead if you must. Our lives are insane enough without adding bitter to the flavor.  And be patient, things can take time, but persevere.  Take a long look at your skills and how those translate to other opportunities.  Sometimes we feel stuck when really, we only need to look at ourselves (and our situation) with fresh eyes.

Om – Stressing? Let’s calm that right down

Breath work and being in the present is so amazing for calming right down whenever stress strikes.  I’ve been doing yoga now for 15 years and love it.  Doing Vinyasa Flow (there are many yoga options) taught me how to breath deeply, expanding the lungs, which is great for longevity and aging but also how to control my breath and I learned breathing techniques.  Doing yoga truly is a moving meditation and helps one tie in the mind, the body and the spirit.  For this reason, I feel Yoga is the best form of exercise out there and should certainly be incorporated into whatever other work out you engage in on a weekly basis.

Regarding meditation, here are a couple of videos on both the breath and meditation.  Try taking a break for a minute to watch just one.
Namaste

– check out this 13 minute Ted talk

And for the breath, if you feel that RIGHT NOW you really just need to BREATHE –  close your eyes and breathe through a short 10 minute meditation from a Vipassana meditation teacher

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Your Body Healthy – Acidic vs Alkaline

Eternal health and happiness begins in the gut. The heart has a few words to stand up and say about what I just typed, but frankly, if your gut isn’t happy, everything else in your life becomes secondary.

Most of us were raised in homes with busy and well meaning parents who did not understand proper medicine.  Food is medicine.  Food is also poison if we are eating the wrong stuff.  The foods we Americans eat on the SAD (Standard American Diet), is acidic in our bodies.  For optimum health and to eschew cancer and other bad mojo diseases, we must create an alkaline environment inside our Temple.

Examples of acid foods would be meat, poultry, milk, cheese, packaged foods, bread, pasta, pastries, soft drinks, most snack foods.

Vegetables, plants, sprouts, sea weeds and fresh water algae are highly alkalizing.  Veggies neutralize toxic acids in our blood and tissues. Chlorella, blue-green algae (From Klamath Lake is the best source) helps chelate and pull heavy metals from the body.

Try not overcooking your food.  Cooking it destroys the natural enzymes which are life giving!  Heating above 118 kills off the enzymes.  Shoot for an 80/20 diet where 80% of your food intake is alkalizing foods, preferably raw.

Work toward weaning yourself off over processed foods.  Avoid: Excess alcohol, caffeine, salt and sugar, especially avoid anything with High Fructose Corn Syrup.

I recently began growing my own sprouts and wheat-grass which I am very excited about! Part of my work as a Holistic Health Consultant is to assist clients with ways to optimize their health and growing things in your kitchen are a terrific start.  All this stated, I realize not everybody knows how to get started or may have the time to do this, particularly a challenge for people who travel a lot or work very long hours as I did for the last 15 years.

If overwork and travel put you in a time famine, look for ways to mind your diet by eating the least processed most raw menu items and supplement with a body tonic!  Miessence has a few body tonics to explore that you can check out on my website: DeepGreen which you add to water or juice to alkalize the body.  Berry Radical is an antioxidant Superfood and InLiven is a gluten free 13 strain Probiotic you can mix into a smoothie or juice.

Look for products which are raw, freeze dried and cold pressed so that you are ingesting quality ingredients to maintain the maximum benefits for yourself, not just the company you purchase from.

All the very best in health!
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Wheat Grass – How To Grow The Best

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Loved it, hated it?  My husband is really fine with the flavor.  Me?  Gag, not so much. Even with these adorable skull glasses, I am still nonplussed with the flavor.  No, I realize how freaking healthy it is to do, how the mineral content can even change gray hair back to your natural colour, so I force myself to shoot it down.  Because it is so detoxing and works quickly, some people can feel a bit nauseated after a shot of the magic green.  I feel fine after getting it down….it’s the getting it down I struggle personally with.  With my Hippocrates Training I learned a few secrets lately to help get the best mineral and vitamin content as well as the best (ahem) flavor.

Growing your own wheat grass is going to be, by far, the least cost and the freshest.  One way is with organic soil in a 10×10 Tray with 1 cup of wheat grass and about 1/2 inch of soil.  After 3 days of soaking and rinsing them, it take about 7 days for the grass to be ready.  If you go this route, with soil, you will find that most of it gets absorbed by the plant so its really not as messy a process as what I was initially envisioning when I decided to go hydroponic.

I use the Prodyne appetizer tray to grow my Wheat Grass.  This system can also be used for Mung beans and Sunflower sprouts.  For the mineral content, I use SeaCal fertilizer in my water mixture as I am not using any soil.  You should get about 4-6 shots out of this method depending upon how much wheat grass seed you lay down. This may mean that you, as I did, purchase 3 or 4 appetizer trays so you always have a rotation going.  You will have the best results using just one layer so I began using 2 cups, per tray, but now I have less yield, less dense but better overall results with 1 or 1.5 cups of seed.  NEVER place ANY sprouts you are doing in direct sunlight.  For Wheat Grass, it will turn bitter and that absolutely isn’t good for anybody (Think bitter beer face).

Instructions as follows:

Step 1 – Germinating the seeds
Day 1 Rinse seeds and place in container, cover with 3xH20 and soak 12 hours.
Day 2 Drain and rinse and soak another 12 hours.
Day 3 Drain rinse and soak a third time 12 hours.
The seeds expand which helps germination, hastening sprouting and minimizing mold.
Day 4 Drain and rinse a final time.

Step 2 – Line the bottom of your tray with paper towels (you can cut them to size) This helps to keep them from falling through the tray vent holes.
Step 3 – Lay down your layer of soaked seeds.
Step 4 – Fill the appetizer dish with water
Step 5 – Spray them morning and evening with water.  I like to add a 1/4 tsp of baking soda which helps inhibit mold.  If you do end up with a bit of mold on the root system, that can be rinsed off.  You are cutting above the root line anyway.

I like to add just a bit of water to my appetizer tray at the beginning, then toss it and renew with the vitamin water (adding the SeaCal)

In a few days, you will see a green blade appearing.  In about 7 days (after placing in the tray) you should see the joint or where there is the very beginning of a new leaf coming up after the first original blade.  NOW is time to harvest, the grass is at its peak.

So the key things are 1) Never direct sunlight.  Your kitchen counter is perfect. 2) Spray 2x a day 3)You want it to be the very freshest which means growing it yourself is best and finally 4) Harvest at the beginning of the joint, once you see that 2nd blade begin to pop up, harvest the entire tray!  Keep it in a bag in the fridge, keeps for a week or get a green grow bag for nearly double the life.

Let me know please if I can help answer any questions too.  When I first began this journey I had a plethora of them and am still learning as I go along.  Cheers!

Organic Vegetative Composting – Envirocycle Composter Review

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So, I had just given a never used composter away to my neighbor.   For those of you following me, I am in the midst of Hippocrates Health Institutes Life Transformation learning program.  This means I went out a few weeks later and purchased a new composter after learning how I really needed one.  I am growing an organic garden and while I have a good organic fertilizer I did not realize I needed to apply it bi weekly.  Yep and while I had heard of compost tea, I did not realize how badly I needed that either.  Apparently plants really take in a ton of nutrients from their leaves when sprayed with compost tea.

But I am lazy or you could say busy if you are being kind. I did not want something that was hand crank, as that could get heavy and cumbersome and perhaps hard on my hands. And regarding making the tea, while I learned in class how to take some compost material out, place the compost in a mesh cloth, tile with twine and suspend it in a 5 gallon bucket of water for 2 weeks, then remove the mesh cloth, fill a misting bottle and spray upon the leaves with abandon, that sounded like steps to me.  Gee, I wondered, why can’t both be combined somehow into a composter where I wouldn’t (or you either) need to jack with all that?

After much research, I am now the proud owner of the Envirocycle Most Beautiful Composter in the World.  Well, it is darn cute, even in the larger size which I opted for.  It comes in 17 or 34 gallons.  Other than the size, they are identical.  Many folks buy 2, one can be ‘cooking’ while you are using the other that’s ready.  For now, I have just the one.  AND, and this I am truly madly deeply excited about, it makes compost tea!!!!  You use little plugs, save your tea inside the base. You just unscrew a little lid in the base that creates and stores your tea.  It’s concentrated, so you add water to it in a spray bottle and spray upon the leaves with abandon.  Yayee!  What is NOT to love here?

Even if you are, like me, just starting out with your home organic gardening, it is really important to impart your produce with the most nutrients possible.  Hippocrates also recommends augmenting your soil with minerals too.  This can be stone dust or go purchase minerals. I have very rocky soil and wonder if that counts.  For now, I am hooked on composting.   The company has amazing customer care, the product is a joy to use and because it rolls right off its base to wherever you want to lay down some compost, it is easy peasy lemon squeezy!

Oh, and I did title this post Vegetative Composting, and the reason why is that I want you to avoid meat products.  This will cut down on bugs and flies but also, it is important to note that most compost is animal byproduct.  Not only this, but most come from factory farming, which means pesticides and loads of antibiotics.  This crap doesn’t break down so when you use this stuff, you eat it when you harvest.  Ick.  Let’s avoid all that unpleasantness and just do 75% green (all your veggie scraps, wheat-grass root bed, lawn clippings) and 25% brown (leaves, cardboard)

Compost happy!

Come and listen to a story about a gal named Suz
She wanted to go organic but didn’t want the blues
Then one day she found the most beautiful composter in the world

And oh the Envirocycle made her a happy girl!
Bubbling crude, there was!  Black gold, Texas ‘compost’ tea.  (Seeing if y’all are reading me.)

Domestic Abuse – The Quiet Version

Let’s talk about domestic abuse. There is a picture that immediately comes to mind for most of us however there is a another, far quieter and equally deadly kind. It is when a loved one ceases to be a true partner. Every day we teach others how to treat us by what we do and don’t accept. But loving someone who harms us is a tricky situation. We partner up for many reasons. One of them is to learn how to love more perfectly, we spend our lives learning to truly give of ourselves, to be less self-involved and come together in a giving nurturing spirit. There are a myriad of reasons and excuses for remaining stuck in old behaviors that no longer suit yourself and those around you. However, we….each of us, are called to our own personal brand of greatness! And time is of the essence! It’s time to lose the bad behaviors that cause hurt anxiety and sadness for our family.

 

God sees the intent behind our actions and our heart is fully known to him. He sees your pains, your reasons, your potential used or squandered.

 

There is rain in everyone’s life and there is also joyousness too. Sometimes there is more rain than there is joy and life is not always fair.

 

But I encourage everyone to be a true partner in life. Acknowledge your co-creation of your life as it stands. If you do not like your life so far know that it is up to you to change it . And if you are stuck in an abusive situation you may not be able to change the abuser but you can change your own personal direction .

 

We are all called to fully participate in life, fully participate with loved ones. We are also called to take very good care of ourselves; It is only from a position of strength within ourselves that we can be of the greatest benefit to others . Move past grief or anything else holding you back and engage as a support system for both yourself and those you love.

 

Choosing to remain in weakness drags you and your loved ones down and robs you the opportunity to truly shine the light that only you have.

A friend of mine has been in great pain carrying a heavy burden. Let this burden be lifted, and if you or someone you know is suffering, may the light of loved ones around you and them shine and joy and peace reign.

Mod Stylish Air Purifiers – Rabbit Room Air Purifier Review & Tecool Portable

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Why we love the  Rabbit room air purifiers.
We live in a polluted world.  And many times, the air inside our homes is the worst to breath!
Below is a link to Dr Axe for more information, but unless you are very careful to use only organic and natural cleaning agents, and environmentally friendly and toxin free furnishings, the average home contains about 10 gallons of synthetic chemical products.
From cigarette smoke, to pesticides,  from paints to household cleansers, to candles and incense or other air fresheners –  all can distribute toxins throughout the home.
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We now have 6. I had 2 for several years and then bought 4 more after my Hippocrates training.  This model is the sleekest, plus the customization is great!  We have the fish, pictured, and also one with the Julius monkey cover.  The filters typically last 2 years and are also customizable.   I have owned some ugly air filtration systems in my day and am thankful now that I no longer feel the need to sacrifice style for health. Rabbit offers the Artists Series featuring images by Gustav Klimt, Katsushika Hokusai and original designs by Rabbit Air’s creative team, to offer you a sophisticated answer to stale air.

I leave mine on auto so that they automatically adjust the fan speed high or low as needed to filter the air in the entire room as much as twice an hour.

The Minus A2 – SPA 780 filters as much as 815 square feet while the Minus A2 -SPA 700A, filters as much as 700 square feet.  The unit stands on its own base or you can opt to wall mount it.
I totally dig the mood light, the LED lighting may be turned on so that it provides a soft mellow glow of soothing colours.  It automatically sense when it is dark or ‘nap time’ so I like to read in bed, then turn the light out for bed, watch the colours for a bit while I get myself organized and poof, it goes out a few moments later.  Perfect!
There are six stages of air purification and you can customize, as noted earlier, for Toxin absorbing, Pet allergy, odor, germs.  Many people who keep birds choose this filtration system since birds are very sensitive to bad air.
But it is also sleek and gorgeous!  We have people over and they comment on the filters, because they present themselves as art.
Driving can be very dirty business, as can sitting in a dusty cubicle.  Working from home is such blessing but I recently found myself driving into the office far more than I planned and coughing due to the detritus level. I wanted something for the car and the office that was easily transportable, nice looking and with Hepa filtration.  The Tecool air purifier USB plugs into your car or laptop for easy peasy transition and comes in a soft white or black.   A coworker was chronically coughing one morning so I unplugged my purifier and plugged it into her laptop so she could breathe some fresh air.  Within minutes her coughing grew quieter and then stopped all together.  For $32.99 it’s a great deal.
If you are saddled with some lung congestion, such as from construction or just general pollution, while you work on clearing the air, I recommend Hyland Phosphorus as a natural homeopathic aid for cough or chest congestion. It works fast too!  I am never without this or Fenu-Thyme capsules which have two fabulous lung healing herbs to boost your lung’s ability to clear itself out.
Folks, as we age, the lungs take a real beating.  Support your lungs by cleaning your air, minimizing dirty environments and taking  natural supplements to support them.